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Problem....With Half-sister - May 5th 2018, 06:31 AM

So a lot of you know that I have a half sister who is 13 years younger than me so that makes her thirteen. Well she is my half-sister because of her dad. Anyways my "father" abused my sexually and verbally and neglected me when I was little. I absolutely want NOTHING to do with him or his new wife. Yes I want to know my sister and keep in touch with her. The problem is I don't want him and his wife to know my mental health struggles the thing is I posted on my instagram that I was 1 year cut free and other things. She commented this "I can't believe you made it this far the [last name] are so proud of you" which means she old her mom and dad. How do I tell her if she wants to stay in contact with me that anything she learns CANNOT be shared with them, and if she feels like she can't do that then I am going to delete and block her on my social media.

To some it may not seem like a big deal but to me it is, because he is part of the reason I am so messed up and turned to these coping skills in the first place.

I just don't want to be rude but I do not want them knowing. Any advice would be great.



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Re: Problem....With Half-sister - May 5th 2018, 01:39 PM

Hey,

I don't think there is anything wrong with asking this of your half sister. I also understand why it's important for her parents to not know about your struggles. I don't know the best way for you to go about asking her this because she might not fully understand your reasons for requesting it but you don't have any obligation to help her understand. I think the best thing to do would be to be honest and tell her that you aren't comfortable with them knowing about the struggles you have. Maybe say something like "I am not comfortable with your parents knowing about this. Please don't tell them and if you cannot do that I am going to have to remove you from my social media.' It might not be an easy conversation to have but you might end up feeling better after having it because you'll be able to know that you don't have someone on your social media who will tell them what you are struggling with.

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