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My friend owes me money - November 30th 2018, 11:23 AM

My friend owes me money because we went half on a hotel for a night out.
He said he would pay me by transferring it to my bank account but his bank wont let him do it so he said when he next sees me he will give it to me.

I don't want to be rubbish friend but the hotel room did cost me 100 pound and he promised to go half on it with me as we stayed in the same room. I know he is currently moving house and I don't want to seem like a dickhead of a friend. I do not need the money right now but I do want it because it's only fair right? I can't afford to go spending a 100 pound on hotel rooms which is why he went half on it. I don't know how to handle this without seeming like a terrible friend because if I don't mention it he will most likely forget when I next see him and I do want it back but I don't want to seem like a dick head I love him a lot if it was 30 pound then I would probably let him off but it's nearly 50 pound which he owes me.

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Re: My friend owes me money - December 9th 2018, 02:51 PM

I'm wondering why your friend said that his back wouldn't let him transfer money to your account? Is it possible that he doesn't have enough money in his account? Whether he does eventually transfer money or give it to you in cash, you do have every right to get the money back. You're not being a terrible friend. If your friend couldn't afford it, then he should never have asked you to pay for the hotel room. If he can afford it, then he should pay you back.

If your friend is currently moving, then it may not be the best time to ask him. Perhaps wait a little while and maybe ask again after Christmas when he is more settled and isn't busy with the Christmas holidays. If you know when he gets paid, you can mention it just after as well. You can just talk about it like you have done here- say that you don't want to be an annoying friend, but you want to ask if he is the money that he owes you.

If you find he is always making excuses or doesn't give you the money back, then you may want to consider whether it is wise to give him more or pay for his share of things in future.

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Re: My friend owes me money - December 9th 2018, 03:01 PM

Well you definitely deserve your half of the money back that is for sure. Right now I think all you can do is give him the benefit of the doubt that he will come through and pay you the 50 pounds back in cash like he says he will in a short period of time after he makes his move complete. If after that is done and he keeps putting it off then you need to confront him and say I need my money now and don't worry about putting pressure on him. It is only fair to you and that you get your money back.

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Re: My friend owes me money - December 14th 2018, 11:47 AM

Just forget about this money. The next time you find yourself in the same situation, do not agree to pay for it. Remind about the last case.
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Re: My friend owes me money - December 16th 2018, 12:52 AM

I think you could handle this by letting your friend know that you don't want to be a hassle, but that you definitely need to be paid back. Let him know you understand he's busy due to experiencing a move so you don't mind waiting a few weeks but that you need to be paid back by the end of January (or whenever you feel is reasonable) due to having expenses that you need to cover and that you'll be short if he doesn't pay you back due to your budget or some such shit, I mean, phrase it however, you want though...

I feel like it's totally reasonable to say A) you need to be repaid the money B) set a deadline and express that you need the money because you have expenses to cover and 50 pounds is a significant sum in your budget, whether that's a mental or literal one and then C) make plans, suggest that he can try transferring from his account again, or make plans to spend time together and let him know you will remind him a day or 2 before hand so that he won't forget to withdraw money AND also make sure you go to a place where there will be ATM's just in case he forgets. Make sure you make plans well prior to the deadline so that if he doesn't follow through you can implement D) which is to basically tell him that you were pretty clear about why you needed to be repaid and that it's disappointing that he doesn't seem respectful of the favour you did and that you need the mnoey etc.
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Re: My friend owes me money - December 17th 2018, 02:59 AM

Hey there,

There is nothing wrong with asking your friend for the money. I know it's a really uncomfortable situation to be but he said he would pay you so it's okay for you to mention to him that you need the money. If he is busy or if he is lacking on funds you could suggest that he pay you in installments. Sometimes coming up with 100 can be difficult so if you told him you'd be willing to work up some type of payment plan that might help.

One things I'll say is it's always best to not loan friend's or family money and expect it back. I've known plenty of people who have loaned out money thinking they would get it back and they never did. Those situations actually led to issues with family and has led to one person losing their friend.

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Re: My friend owes me money - January 1st 2019, 09:21 PM

I think that you should talk to your friend and tell him that he is wrong.
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Re: My friend owes me money - January 30th 2019, 06:14 AM

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Re: My friend owes me money - February 3rd 2019, 07:01 PM

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