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It's a lot. - April 2nd 2020, 01:10 AM

My older sister kept having her boyfriend over and last night my parents yelled at her and said no one is allowed over. People are getting really sick and die. She is not talking to us. A few of us have been sick and she doesn't care, only about her boyfriend. I had just 4 hours of sleep last night because I was upset. Hopefully I can sleep more tonight. It feels like everything is going wrong. I don't know if it's going to be okay soon. I want to give up.


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Re: It's a lot. - April 2nd 2020, 01:58 AM

Is there any way that your sister can stay with her boyfriend instead? Maybe that will ease household tension. It may be better if she does since she clearly wants to be with him so much.

Ultimately it's up to her if she refuses to talk to the rest of her family, but she's only really hurting herself in the process. Perhaps in the future she'll come to see that.

I know it's hard to stay positive in times like these, but just remember that what's going on in the world right now won't last forever. I understand the uncertainty that this pandemic has caused, and continues to cause, but just remember that you have a right to tell your sister how she feels. She's clearly affecting you and your family. She obviously doesn't realise the gravity of the situation. From my perspective, it's as if she's so in love with her boyfriend she can't see anything beyond that. I definitely think trying to persuade her to stay over with her boyfriend instead may be a better option, for you and all of your family.

With all of that said, your sister isn't entirely all to blame. Her boyfriend has a choice whether or not he wants to come and stay. He's clearly choosing to do so without regard for the health and safety of your household and also needs a good talking to.


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Re: It's a lot. - April 2nd 2020, 03:52 AM

Eventually your sister will understand why your parents have this rule in place. It's for everyone's safety, including her own. Some people just don't realize how serious this is, especially if they aren't in an at-risk group. That being said, like Sarah said, this includes her boyfriend as well and not just your sister. This isn't your fault, though. Maybe let your sister cool down a bit and then she'll start talking to you all again. I understand how stressful that is though!


   
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Re: It's a lot. - April 2nd 2020, 04:13 AM

Hi there,

I'm so sorry to hear what's been going on for you.

As Sarah and Dez mentioned, your sister will eventually be able to talk to your parents about it and she will see how serious this virus is.

Hopefully things will settle down for you and your family soon.


   
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Re: It's a lot. - April 2nd 2020, 11:17 PM

I think your sister is being incredibly careless and your boyfriend seems to not have any concern in regards to her or your family's health. You and your parents are right in reacting the way you are, and I am sorry you are feeling upset that your sister won't speak to you now. There are, unfortunately, a lot of people who either don't realize how serious this pandemic or just don't care; instead, they only care about themselves.

I can sense the stress you, and everyone else, is feeling right now. This is a stressful time for a lot of the world; but as long as we keep doing the right thing, such as maintaining social distancing and other hygienic measures, we can get through this in one piece. You have your parents and other sister you can speak to in the meantime. Of course, you also have TeenHelp. Feel free to reach out to us again if you have to, or use your blog, or utilize HelpLink.

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Re: It's a lot. - April 4th 2020, 12:37 PM

Thank you all so much. My sister is going to stay with us, because my parents told her that she can stay with her boyfriend or us, you don't get both and she's not being very nice. I'm going to do my best to not get upset. Thank you again. Hugs to all.


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