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Unhappy What to say to my dad? - June 21st 2009, 03:04 PM

Ok ill start with the question then ill go to the story.

How do i tell my dad i dont want to go over his yet?

Ok so heres the story, my mum and dad split up 2 years ago, and he was having an affair with a woman for 6 months, before my mum found out, Now he moved STRAIGHT in with her and i havent been over his yet with or without her there, so anyway (late last year) he tried to force me in going over and meeting her, i stood my ground and said "NO!". Anyway lately he said she was going away for a weekend and he wants me to stop over, now i am EXTREMLY uncomftorable with it, i said yes because i felt i had to, now i dont want to because im loosing sleep over it, it isnt normal to me, but i know he will get really angry with me and start questioning me.

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Re: What to say to my dad? - June 21st 2009, 03:08 PM

All you can do is tell him straight that you don't want to go. If you're worried about him getting angry and questioning you then prepare an excuse beforehand so you can just tell him that, you could say you forgot you already had something planned with your friends.
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Re: What to say to my dad? - June 21st 2009, 03:10 PM

Hey Robin, I don't blame you for not wanting to go, my friend wouldn't even look at her dad for doing that type of thing. You should try talking to him with no-one around you. Not your mum not the other woman. But just you two and tell him how you feel.
No matter what age you are its a lot to take in for anyone.
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Re: What to say to my dad? - June 24th 2009, 07:35 PM

If you don't respect your father and/or feel comfortable being around him because of his affair, because of how he hurt your mother with his infidelity, then tell him that's why you're refusing to see him. You could continue to lie, to make up excuses as to why you can't see him, but what's the point? Might as well be honest with him about it all, and maybe that will finally get the message across to him. Maybe he'll leave you alone after that.

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