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standing up to my sister - July 1st 2009, 10:37 AM

so i didnt know where to put this thought this might be okish
my sister treats me really bad all the time to much in most people opinions and i just have had enough of her treating me the way, anyhoo, i have a car and i give her a lift to school everyday and home when im not working...after telling her i was going to school normal tomoz *we both have a free first* she got really cut and i just went off i want to go to school and study, so now she has to catch the bus...not just tomoz i said she can forget about ever getting a lift with me.

as much as it is horrible it is my twin sister i said this to and i do feel bad but i need to start standing up for my own rights.
ways she would treat me
spread rumors my depression is all a joke attention seeking
that i am lying, never been abused or used drugs and alcohol....i hid this all from my family i still have the contact names of people if they want proof
manipulates peoples minds to believe her
that i am a selfish bitch to her by lying *irony*

but i have my true friends and they believe me =]
   
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Re: standing up to my sister - July 1st 2009, 01:19 PM

Hellooo there.

Hmm, I've always wanted a twin brother - I just think that'd be so much fun to have a built in friend your own age. Anyway, definitely not the point of this post.

Let me ask you something: is there any reason that you have a car and she doesn't, even though you guys are twins? Do you share this car? Did your parents buy it specifically for you? If so, I definitely think that could be one of the roots of you and your sister's problems. I believe that in a pair of twins, there's definitely an increased amount of sibling rivalry simply because you guys ARE the same ages and usually going through the same things [school wise, dating wise, etc] at around the same time. So, that's just something to keep in mind.

If I were you, I'd start by talking to your sister one day on the way to school. Just tell her how you're feeling, because as you probably know, communication is the key to ANY relationship. It's not okay for her to spread rumors about your mental health, but if you don't address it, is she really going to see something wrong with it? This is one of the reasons why communication is important.

I think that because you do have the car, especially if your parents bought you one without buying her one, you do need to continue taking her to school. Tell her that if you're going at a different time, you'll try to let her know in advance, but you're ultimately trying to do what's best. If she feels that's not convenient, she'll just have to ride the bus. However, be the big girls that you both are and try to come to some sort of compromise.

I know it's frustrating, but I also know you can get through. [: Best of luck.



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Re: standing up to my sister - July 2nd 2009, 08:07 AM

i brought the car myself. i have a job and she doesnt
thats the thing i work my arse off for any type of communication and she will turn her back. she manipulated some of our friends into believing i didnt have depression and now they all hate me, she has done some pretty horrible things and i try to talk to her she will then go straight and bitch and laugh about it to her friends.
i tell my mum, she says all girls are the same im not......there might only be 56 more days but it is 56 more days of torture and pain for me. standing up to her felt good, only for her to turn around today and make me feel like im the bad one in this situation.
its not like the bus is hard for her, it is two blocks down from our house.
   
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Re: standing up to my sister - July 2nd 2009, 12:45 PM

hey hun, i think it's downright wrong the way your sis is treating you. but do know that there's always strength in the truth and you don't have to explain your ways to others especially when you know you're right. your sis has no right spreading rumours about you and taking advantage of you. don't feel like you're the "bad one" for standing up to her because you can't let her feel like she can control you. you're not powerless against her!



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