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Unhappy Should I tell dad? - July 7th 2009, 04:40 PM

Darn, i'm posting again, sorry guys. I'll make it a short one.

Things that've happened; I don't wanna list them...but anyway, not sure if you understand how much, well, pain i'm in about all of this. I'm dealing with it in the worst possible ways.

My question is, my dad, we get on fantastic but....he thinks im happy and normal. He thinks i'm a happy girl. And. Im not. Im just about as sad as they come, and he knows; nothing.

But well, should I tell him? Should I ruin this happy portray he has of me, for a miserable one? Or should I leave things as they are?

If you think I should tell him, how should I?

My mum knows, i'm pretty sure she thinks i'm making it up. But well she's trying to make things better.

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Re: Should I tell dad? - July 7th 2009, 06:16 PM

I think that it would be a good idea to tell your dad; the more support the better. It sounds like you guys are pretty close and I'm sure that he would want to know that you are hurting. I think in the end when you're close with somebody they'd would rather you tell them that you are going through a rough spot and need them than them find out down the road somehow and they would have wished they could have been there for you and might be a little hurt that you didn't trust them or what.

People that love you, want to go through the bad with you as well with the good, that's what people are for. I really think that you should talk with him about it!

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Re: Should I tell dad? - July 7th 2009, 08:00 PM

Hey Lily.

It sounds like you have a really close relationship with your dad. Im sure he'd want to know if you were hurting- and maybe this is the support you need. From what I've heard, your mum hasnt really stood by you recently, and you need someone to reach out to. You're going through a real rough time, and the people that love you want to be there for you-to pick you back up again and get your life back on track.

Don't be afraid to reach out to him- it doesn't mean your weak, and it doesn't mean you're going to ruin your relationship with him. You need people there for you, now more then ever.

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Re: Should I tell dad? - July 7th 2009, 08:23 PM

I agree with what's been said thus far. I didn't tell my mom about a lot of things until years after they had happened (ex. feelings of depression, self-harm, abusive boyfriend). She was completely shocked, said she had no idea, and said that she wished she could have been there for me all those years ago.






   
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Re: Should I tell dad? - July 7th 2009, 10:06 PM

To be honest, I think that you should tell your dad because if something happens he'll always wonder why you never told him and if he's doing something wrong. And if you get along great with him, it will make you even closer, because he'll know that you'll be able to tell him anything you'd like. He is mostly likely able to help you more than you are attempting to help yourself because he has wisdom and knows best...hopefully. But it would be a really good idea to tell him how you feel, even if you are not sure WHY you feel this way.



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Re: Should I tell dad? - July 9th 2009, 10:20 AM

Yeah you should tell your Dad, he would want to try and help make things better. As to how you do it, I guess you just have to be straight with him and explain everything.
   
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Re: Should I tell dad? - July 9th 2009, 12:42 PM

I agree with everyone above. You should tell your father that you are hurting. He's not going to love you less if he thinks or knows that you are in pain, he will just want to help you as much as he can to make it all better. Thats what mommy's and daddy's do, they do everything in their power to make things better. . .well most of the time :P lol. I think that you will feel better too if you tell him whats bothering you and let him try to help you. Best of luck my dear.

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