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hmmm, - July 10th 2009, 05:38 PM

soo i'm basically scared to tell my parents that i've decided to get baptized because i know they're going to laugh at me. they already don't like the fact that i go to church really and they keep telling me to stay home but they can't tell me what to do with my faith sooo either way it's going to happen.

i don't really have to tell them or anything BUT it would be kind of niceee for them to at least know, you know. i mean, i've talked to a couple of friends and people i'm close with and they're all "that's great," then again they all believe the same thing i do... i just, i don't want to get laughed at and have my feelings get hurt again.....

they did this to me when they asked what i was majoring in for college and i said psychology they just broke out laughing and were all like "you psychology, that's funny cassie, hahaha" ]=


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Re: hmmm, - July 10th 2009, 07:43 PM

that sucks that your parents laugh at you. but if you want to get baptized, i don't think you should let them stand in your way. tell them that you are getting baptized, pose it as a statement, not a question, and if they laugh at you, don't let it hurt you. they probably just don't understand, they probably aren't trying to be unsupportive. tell them that you want them to be with you on this, and if they care, they will be. PM me anytime, i'm always here!
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Re: hmmm, - July 11th 2009, 09:35 PM

Hey cassie I get what your going through I went through the same thing.

I had to tell my parents that I was getting baptized or my pastor wouldnt do it and they just basically said whatever. Which hurt that they didnt care werent proud of my but Im really glad that I did get baptized it was an awsome experince.

When I got saved I told my mom who told my dad at dinner and he was like dont you have to get premession to do that. I was like wtc no. There really not religious at all.

So I say go for it just go right out and say it. You love God and you've given your life to him and to show your love for him your getting baptized, they cant change that no matter what they do.

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Re: hmmm, - July 11th 2009, 09:43 PM

Hey Cassie. It doesn't seem very fair that your family would react that way. The thing that I think is most important for you to remember though, is that you shouldn't let anyone or anything stand in the way of this decision. What I've been taught most during the time I have been going to Catholic school is that your relationship with God is often tested, but unbreakable if you are willing to have no limit for the things that you do for God. So if you really want to be baptized, don't let anyone stand in the way of that - it's your decision, and that decision belongs to no one else but you. If your parents do have that reaction, don't let it discourage you, because you're making the right decision if you want to become closer to God. Your parents opinions don't matter nearly as much as they normally would in this situation. Just come right out and say it, nothing should hold you back. Best of luck :]

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Re: hmmm, - July 11th 2009, 10:54 PM

Hiya Cassie,

I'm sorry to hear that your parents would react in such a way. It's not really fair to you.

However I'm happy that you are deciding to get baptised. It's such a step through a spiritual journey!

I think maybe you should be a bit assertive and tell them, that this is what you believe, and you want to show it by being baptised. Tell them that everyone is different and that they should respect your decision to do this. Even if they don't understand at first, maybe if you keep pressing on your individuality that they might come around.

You want to be baptised and you should not let anyone get in the way of you doing that, even if it is your parents. If you can't tell them this is what you want to do face to face, then I would suggest writing them an e-mail or a letter then carry on from there.

I think you are very brave to do this so kudos to you. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope that your parents are understanding to this. Take care,
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Re: hmmm, - July 12th 2009, 07:49 PM

Hi Cassie,

Just because this isn't a big thing for your parents, it is a big thing for you, so don't be ashamed for wanting them to know about it and support you. They are your parents, and even though they may joke a bit, they do care about you. If this is something you really feel strongly about, then even if they aren't religious, they do love you for who you are.

I think a good way to tell them about it is to say that you want to tell them about something you really feel strongly about and that you would really appreciate their support because this is a big decision for you. Then you can tell them that you want to get baptized.

If they laugh, try not to take it personally. I know that it hurts a bit for your parents not to take your religion seriously, but it's something important to you. This is your spiritual step- not your parents'- so as long as it is meaningful to you, then that is what means the most.


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