TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives

You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Friends and Family Everyone has disagreements, even best friends and family. If you need advice about a relationship, ask us here.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 18th 2009, 10:49 PM

So this past week, my best friend was kinda a jerk. I talked to someone else and he was a jerk to her to. Like he was ditching us to hang out with other people and stuff. So tonight i call him and it was normal and everything, then out of the blue he hangs up on me. I call him back and he doesn't answer. So I look on the computer and see taht he's online so i im him saying. I don't mean to sound like a bitch, but you were a complete jerk this last week. Obviouslly that wasn't the brightest thing to do, because now he's ignoring me and wont text me back or pick up the phone. What should i do?
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
St.Vincent Offline
Edna
I've been here a while
********
 
St.Vincent's Avatar
 
Name: Edna
Age: 27
Gender: Female
Location: Somewhere Across Forever

Posts: 1,269
Blog Entries: 102
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 18th 2009, 10:56 PM

He clearly shouldn't be your best friend if he doesn't explain his behavior.

My advice? Write him a long email explaining the things he does that upset you, and how they made you feel. Ask him what's up, don't be accusatory. If he blows that heartfelt email off, then he's being stupid and you need to ignore him for a while, too.


I am waylaid by Beauty. Who will walk
Between me and the crying of the frogs?

(My PM box is always open.. if I can't help you, I'll find someone who can)
   
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 18th 2009, 11:37 PM

okay, so i finally give up calling him. about an hour later he sends me a text saying he feel asleep. I call him and he doesn't pick up, but sends me a text saying he can't talk everyone at his house is asleep and he'll call me in the morning. so we'll talk about it then. but i don't know what to do. I feel like a may be over reacting, but i don't want to under react either.
   
  (#4 (permalink)) Old
xxpaigiexx Offline
Up In The Clouds...

I can't get enough
*********
 
xxpaigiexx's Avatar
 
Name: Paige
Age: 27
Gender: Female
Location: London

Posts: 2,383
Blog Entries: 96
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 05:02 AM

You're not over-reacting.
He upset you and you have a right to tell him but what he doesn't have the right to do is ignore your calls and just go around upsetting people.
Don't wait around by the phone for that phone call if you get one all well and good but don't sit by the phone, he'll call when he's ready.
If this was me I'd expect an apology and a long winded one at that.
Take care.
<3
   
  (#5 (permalink)) Old
losing touch. Offline
oh, really?..
Jeez, get a life!
***********
 
losing touch.'s Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female
Location: UK

Posts: 5,996
Blog Entries: 537
Join Date: January 8th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 05:15 AM

he doesn't sound like a particularly good friend if he's just going to ignore you without good reason. send him a facebook private message or email telling him that what he's doing has upset you and basically what you wrote on here. he may well not realise that what he's doing has upset you so don't just assume that he's being a jerk on purpose.


..and our dreams will break the boundaries of our fears..



   
  (#6 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 11:54 AM

When (and if) he calls, I'll explain it all to him, because I don't know if he realizes that he was a jerk. The last week has been super busy for both of us, and I don't want our friendship to end just because of this.
   
  (#7 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 01:15 PM

AUGH! He still hasn't called. And I can tell he's up, because he's online on facebook! I feel like a piece of shit, because I can tell he's avoiding me.
   
  (#8 (permalink)) Old
Claire Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
Claire's Avatar
 
Name: Claire
Gender: Female
Location: Wales

Posts: 373
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 01:22 PM

Hmm, i would say that he was probably just busy and you caught him at the wrong time, but after reading your last post about him being online on facebook, i think it sounds like he's ignoring you. You should definitely talk to him about it, don't just let it go. He needs to understand he hurt you and if he doesn't understand then he's not that good a friend as you first thought I think.
   
  (#9 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 03:26 PM

he still hasnt called me! but i dont know what to say when he does. We've never 'fought' before, and i don't even know, if he knows that im mad at him. and im afraid that when i try to explain it i'll just sound dumb and like i'm mad for no reason. What should i say when he calls me?
   
  (#10 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 04:09 PM

I know i'm obsessing on this, but I can't help it. He still hasn't called me, though! But a little bit ago i got a call from one of the friends in our circle, and a couple of us are going to see a movie. She set it up with him, but he had her call me. So at least he wants me there, unless he didn't but she invited me anyway. I have no idea how to act when i see him tonight. and to top it all off i have the hiccups right now.
   
  (#11 (permalink)) Old
TheWhiteTornado Offline
Member
Senior TeenHelper
*******
 
TheWhiteTornado's Avatar
 
Name: Jack
Age: 26
Gender: Male

Posts: 786
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 04:20 PM

You did nothing wrong, don't worry about it,
he was the one acting like a jerk and you just told him of his faults,
if he can't accept the fact that he's not perfect then it's his fault, he doesn't deserve someon as cool and caring as you

as for getting back in touch with him just send him a message saying "I didn't mean to offend you, but the way you acted made me mad. i want to stay in touch with you but you need to lighten up around my friends."


"What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?"
-George Eliot

"Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it."
-Groucho Marx

"Don't be afraid your life will end; be afraid that it will never begin."
-Grace Hansen
   
  (#12 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 04:24 PM

I want to do that, but i'm not sure if he even read the message I sent him. When I see him tonight, hopefully we'll hug and make up and all will be right again.
   
  (#13 (permalink)) Old
TheWhiteTornado Offline
Member
Senior TeenHelper
*******
 
TheWhiteTornado's Avatar
 
Name: Jack
Age: 26
Gender: Male

Posts: 786
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 04:28 PM

Well that's his loss because he's losing touch of someone like you,
and i hope that works out, good luck


"What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?"
-George Eliot

"Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it."
-Groucho Marx

"Don't be afraid your life will end; be afraid that it will never begin."
-Grace Hansen
   
  (#14 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 04:35 PM

thanks, your actually made me feel a lot better. I'm hoping it does too.
   
  (#15 (permalink)) Old
TheWhiteTornado Offline
Member
Senior TeenHelper
*******
 
TheWhiteTornado's Avatar
 
Name: Jack
Age: 26
Gender: Male

Posts: 786
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 04:37 PM

Well hearing that just made my day
just remember, you've done nothing wrong here so there's no need for you to feel bad about anything


"What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?"
-George Eliot

"Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it."
-Groucho Marx

"Don't be afraid your life will end; be afraid that it will never begin."
-Grace Hansen
   
  (#16 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 04:43 PM

glad we made eachother happy.
I'll try to remember, but i might feel a little guilty.
   
  (#17 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 09:52 PM

I no longer feel guilty! He avoided me tonight and i wasn't imagining it! Someone else agreed that he was. And appearently today he was super bored and was IMing people, texting, and calling all of them. He is offically being a jerk. If he doesn't call me by tommorrow I'm calling him and telling him why I'm so pissed off. I really don't need this. I already have enough stress about transferring schools on Wednesday. And he's like the only one I know at my new school. Plus I'll be sharing a locker with him, so if things aren't better by wednesday, it's going to be major awkwardness. AUGH.


Drop me a PM anytime, about anything!
I would love to talk to you!
   
  (#18 (permalink)) Old
TheWhiteTornado Offline
Member
Senior TeenHelper
*******
 
TheWhiteTornado's Avatar
 
Name: Jack
Age: 26
Gender: Male

Posts: 786
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 10:52 PM

Like i said before, it's his fault, he's the one being a jerk, don't feel bad about it,
tell him your reasons and if he still doesn't get it then he doesn't deserve to have a friend like you


"What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?"
-George Eliot

"Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it."
-Groucho Marx

"Don't be afraid your life will end; be afraid that it will never begin."
-Grace Hansen
   
  (#19 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 19th 2009, 11:05 PM

I can't just ditch him after one fight. and it's not even reallya fight. Besides, I'm starting a new school on Wednesday, and he's really the only person I know there. He just sent me a text a while ago. Here's the whole conversation. (Keep in mind we've hardly talked for several days)

Him-So are u coming to my house wednesday morning or what?
Me-Idk. I thought we were picking u up on the way
Him-Just have ur mom drop you off here so she doesnt have to get in the traffic jumble
Me-I think she really wants to drop me off
Him- If she wants to

We had planned this whole thing out like a month ago, although it was still unclear if i would actually go to his house that morning. But he agreed to go early with me on the first day at my new school

So now I have no idea what to do.

He's still kinda avoiding me

I'm still kinda mad

I don't want to cave in and call him. He should call me! We're both so stubborn!


Drop me a PM anytime, about anything!
I would love to talk to you!
   
  (#20 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 20th 2009, 12:34 AM

So i finally talked to him on face book
Here's how it went

Me- okay this is blunt, but why have you been avoiding me all week?
Him- I haven't
Me-It seems that way
Him-im sorry
Me-I'm not the only one who's noticed
Him-ah, got to go

it was soo awkward

i hate this.


Drop me a PM anytime, about anything!
I would love to talk to you!
   
  (#21 (permalink)) Old
love2laugh Offline
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
love2laugh's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 413
Join Date: January 13th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 20th 2009, 02:53 PM

I'm still waiting for him to call...

I don't know how much more of this shit i can take...


Drop me a PM anytime, about anything!
I would love to talk to you!
   
  (#22 (permalink)) Old
Darrenboy! Offline
my long tongue is long.
Senior TeenHelper
*******
 
Darrenboy!'s Avatar
 
Age: 41
Location: MARS! :D

Posts: 944
Blog Entries: 1
Join Date: January 5th 2009

Re: My best friend is ignoring me. :( - January 22nd 2009, 03:57 AM

sometimes its like that..

i see it as his fault.. but you know, you're definitely doing your part by doing all the effort to patch everything up together..

i see you as a friend anyone and everyone would be lucky to have..

i hope everything goes well.


Those who have went through more pain than everyone else, and want to protect anyone and everyone they know and care for from that pain, are stronger than everyone.

we come, we help, we stick and never leave. pm me anytimeee!

Official member of the completely Unofficial free hugs Club !

I'm firing mah Hugs!
   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
friend, ignoring

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2019, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.