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Am I losing a friend? - January 19th 2009, 01:00 PM

I have been friends with this girl for over 7 years now. She and I are really good friends, overall. However, we have barely spoken to each other since November. We are friendly to each other in the hallways exchanging hello's and talk once in awhile. But, we have not hung out since November or had an actual long conversation with each other. She says that despite the fact that her and I are busy, we can still talk to each other. She says that she misses me and stuff, but why doesn't she call me to see if we can get together? She hasn't called since November and I've only called her once since then to see what's up. I understand we are both very busy, but it feels like I'm really losing a friend or at least we are distancing apart. It feels like I put more effort into this friendship or at least it seems like I care more. She does hang out with other people and so do I, but I'd really like it if her and I could hang out more. I don't want to sound selfish or rude, but yesterday was my birthday, and she didn't really say anything. Regardless, our friendship feels quite awkward at least to me. I have spoken to her about this in the past briefly, but she basically told me that she also hangs out with other people. Is this fair? How should I confront her without causing damage to our friendship?

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Re: Am I losing a friend? - January 19th 2009, 04:51 PM

okay, how about you arrange to meet and spend a day together, but make it far in the future so that it's "booked well in advance".
Then you could catch up on things. Also prepare to ring her more often rather than expecting her to call you .. I know you've tried a few times already, but keep trying Good luck!

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Re: Am I losing a friend? - January 19th 2009, 05:07 PM

Thats happened to me a lot but its also because the persons in collage and im still in highschool anyways. I would pretty much call or text her and ask if you guys could have lunch or dinner together and plan on talking to her about how you feel and how you think you are loosing your bestfriend. If she knows exactly how you feel maybe she wil ltell you why shes kind of ignoring you and maybe you can work things out on like you call eachother once or twice a week and hang out on saturdays or something. Just try to make a plan on when you guys arent busy and when you can hangout

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