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Is it wrong to hate your mom? - August 14th 2009, 12:40 AM

My mom was never an abusive person but she was never a nice one.

She never really payed attention to me, I always had to walk home from school for a couple of miles, she never talked to me much, she was always out with friends partying, my dad always bought me things such as clothes and food, now I have a job and I have to buy my clothes, gas, etc. I don't really mind but I would like to save up for something nice like something towards a career. It seemed like she cared more about her friends than me.

I have always felt a anger towards her but I never really realized until yesterday when I thought about the subject.

Now I feel that I cannot die until I make her suffer. My only point in life now is to make her want to die.


Is this wrong? I do not feel remorse for this but I wanted to know if this is normal.
   
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Re: Is it wrong to hate your mom? - August 14th 2009, 03:27 AM

Hey There,

I'm sorry that you were put into this situation. A neglectful parent is just as bad as an abusive one.

I can understand where you may feel hatred towards her. That is a normal reaction to have, although I would guess that having a hatred to the point where you want her to feel like dying is a bit extreme.

I think that you should probably try to move past this feeling of hatred. You seem to be a pretty independent person now. Maybe her neglectful behaviour has shaped you into the person you are today. So maybe it was meant to be like this. I think that if you are fine now, and that she hasn't really bothered you that there is no point in wishing for her to die. The past is the past and there really is nothing you can do to change it, so you will just have to live with what you have now.

The best thing is to let go of these feelings. Live your own life, and be yourself and free. I really hope you can over come this.

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Re: Is it wrong to hate your mom? - August 14th 2009, 10:54 AM

Hey,

I think what you went through at the hands of your mom must have been tough and I can understand why you hate her. Also, I don't think it is wrong to hate a parent (if they do bad things to you) but it isn't good for you because it ends up consuming your life.

You don't want to let your hatred for your mother consume you because in the end it could ruin your life and that basically mean that your mom wins once again. And, your mom isn't going to be the one to suffer from it, you are. You need to try to move on from the things that happened so that you can live a full and very happy life.

Like Emileigh said; you are a pretty independent person and your mom's behavior might have shaped you to be that way. Although it sucks that you didn't have the mother that you deserved at least you came out as a good person.

I hope this helped and if you ever need to talk feel free to pm me.

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