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No visitors? - August 16th 2009, 08:21 PM

My parents really dislike my best friend because of mistakes he'd made with me, so they're taking that out on me. They won't let me go see him this weekend in college, which is less then an hour away just because they don't like him. My mother's excuse is, "You're 16 and he's 18. It's wrong." or "Well, he just got there. You gotta give him time." so I asked when I could visit him. She said when I was 18. I'm not waiting that long to see him. I can see where she's coming from, but at the sametime...they need to trust me. My best friend would protect me, no matter what and I know this. They've known him and so have I for a year.

I told her I was gonna go visit him this weekend if she likes it or not. I'd find a way to get there. She's not happy about that, but I need to see him. He has something he wants to tell me face to face, so...I wanna know and he's not gonna come back for awhile.

How do I get my parents to agree or how do I go? If they don't agree, I'm still going and I don't care what they say or do because he's my best friend and I wanna see him badly. I want to have a sleep over with my best friend. I just wanna spend the weekend with my best friend, that's all.

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Re: No visitors? - August 17th 2009, 05:02 AM

Hey Jessie,
I'm sorry your parents won't let you see him right now. Sometimes they can be pretty stubborn. :/ I can imagine it would be frustrating, being told you can't see him. Even if you don't like the answer i'm about to give, all I ask is that you just think it through for a bit.

Because you're not 18 yet, it might be best to listen to your parents for now. Yes, I know it sucks, but it may be best to respect them and their rules for now, as you live in their house. If your parents say no for now, I think you should follow their decision. Going against your parents and meeting up with him will only upset them, and they won't be able to trust you or your best friend. If you wait it out for a bit and you keep out of trouble, they may start to put more trust in you and him. Eventually, you may have their permission to go out and see him.

I know it's not easy to be away from your best friend for a long time, but it may be the best thing to do right now in order for your parents to ease up. If things go well, they may agree to let you go before you're 18, so don't think things are totally hopeless. In the meantime, there are other ways you can keep in contact. Calling each other, texting, or using the computer are good ways to keep in touch. Also, try organizing time for when he's able to come down to visit you instead of you going out there. It may be a better solution for now.

I hope your parents ease up, and change their mind sometime soon. Take care, okay? :]

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