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Am I just not cool enough for her? - August 18th 2009, 01:20 AM

I know this isn't a big problem, and their are people on this site and forum with wayy bigger problems, and this is pretty pathetic, but it's been really getting to me. I know it's really tweenybopperish and juvenile to get so upset over things like this, but I know that most of you here will understand..

Okay.. theres this girl (Katie) who I consider to be my best friend. We talk all the time, I share stuff with her, go to her for advice, support her through everything. We've been friends for over a year.. but the thing is;
I've never met here in real life. We met on Youtube and became really close. I just commented on her videos and she commented on mine, and we just instantly became friends. We had so much in common, and still have. & Although I consider her to be MY best friend, she doesn't consider me as hers. & who can blame her? From what I can see, from her Facebook and Bebo etc, she's popular (popular for good reasons), has tonnes of friends she knows in REAL life and goes to school with, or lives by. Me; most of my real friends are on the internet. And I can accept that.. most people actually know their best friends.
But theres this other chick, Gemma she also only knows on Youtube, who she constantly calls her 'bff'. She's always talking about how amazing she is and how she wishes they could meet in real life. Katie thinks as highly as Gemma as I think of Katie. I wish I could meet Katie IRL and Iím always talking about how cool she is.
She used to call me her Ďbest friend on youtubeĎ, but this Gemma chick she just calls her best friend. And I know it sounds stupid, but Iím jelous. They have a lot in common, even more in common than me and Katie have.
Also, I feel like sheís mad at me sometimes, sheís like sarcastic and bitter with me for no reason. I donít know if Iím just imagining it or she actually IS angry at me.
Weíve definitely drifted apart. We used to talk on MSN for hours, now we only talk for a couple of minutes. She used to dedicate tonnes of videos and stuff to me, now she never does. & the thing is, I feel like Iím making a huge effort to keep our friendship on strong footing, and she isnít.
Iíve considered talking to her about this, but Iím worried sheíll think Iím weird. Katie.. Sheís flawless, and I donít have a crush on her or anything but I always feel like whenever I talk to her, I have to seem flawless too. I hate saying anything immature, childish or weird now (like I used to for fun) on my facebook incase she sees it.

I've tried everything. I've prayed and wished for her to consider me my best friend to the point where it's getting ridiculous. I feel like I'm on the verge of breaking down.. and at the same time I feel pathetic that I'm so upset over something so immature.

I know this is really long, but if anyone would read all the way through it and give me some advice, itíd make my day..


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Re: Am I just not cool enough for her? - August 18th 2009, 02:22 PM

Hi There!

This isn't a pathetic problem. Anything that is causing you distress is in fact a problem and what may seem petty to other people, seems huge to you. It's all a matter of opinion.

Anyway! Have you talked to Katie about how you are feeling? I know it can seem difficult to confront her and just come out with everything but as long as you bottle these emotions up; the more horrible and miserable you will be feeling. Maybe Katie senses something is up with you and therefore is acting bitter because she feels you have changed; have you ever thought about it from this perspective? Perhaps she senses vibes that suggest you are being clingy when in fact all you want is to be her best friend. People interpret things in their own unique way; so unless you tell her how you're feeling - she will probably remain off with you.

Have you ever thought about why most of your best friends are on the internet? I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with that at all. It's perfectly fine to forge friendships online; however there is certainly nothing wrong with trying to socialise at school so as to make friends where you live locally, with whom you can meet up with and have fun with on a regular basis. If you find it hard making friends irl; you could always join some clubs of your interest - that way the people there already share something in common with you.

Jealousy is something that many people possess. I know i go green with envy regularly! It's a natural human emotion and even though it's one of the seven deadly sins; you shouldn't feel bad for letting it consume you sometimes. Have you gotten to know Gemma? Maybe you and her could become friends as well, you never know...things have an odd way of working out sometimes

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