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Jealousy. - September 7th 2009, 10:20 PM

I am very jealous of my best friend. She's so pretty, confident, fun, kind. She has tons of friends, a great boyfriend, everything. I wish I could be like her. I'm almost the complete opposite. I only have a few friends and I've never had a boyfriend. I'm incredibly shy. I feel almost worthless; nothing ever goes right for me. I have very low self-esteem, which is probably why I'm so jealous of her.

But the thing is she is a great friend; she listens to me whenever I need someone to talk to and we always have fun together. I love her, and I would never, ever do anything to hurt her. But I feel like a selfish jerk for being jealous of her, because she's always been there for me. I hate feeling like this. What should I do?

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Re: So jealous... - September 9th 2009, 09:50 AM

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i understand that you feel like your best friend is a superior person in every way: but the FACT is that everyone feels like the grass is greener on the other side. while she might be seemingly better in a lot of ways, i'm sure that she herself feels that you're better than her in a lot of ways. you should realize that you're wonderful in your own way, and never doubt yourself , because you yourself are special in a way that only you yourself can be .

and you know, i'm sure that you can make a lot of friends too .. its only because you're shy and hence she talks more than you do. but the thing is i'm really confident that you're nice and good enough to interact with many people, you're just worried because you're shy. but the thing is , i'm sure a lot of people out there want to talk to you too .

and once in a while we all feel jealous for someone, but the fact is you surely appreciate what a good and precious friend she is, and thats what truly matters

NEVER doubt yourself.. you ARE in every way as wonderful as your friend is. update us on how this goes. we know you can overcome these negative feelings !

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Re: So jealous... - September 9th 2009, 01:21 PM

hi,
first of we all have nice things in our selves that make us different and beautiful and I am sure there is something amazing about you that makes you stand out you just have not realized it or do not appreciate it as you should.
The life of your friend might seem perfect but no body's life is , and the chance is that your friend had been threw so much or still does is a very big one. Do not feel sorry for what you may not want to have. Still if you see that she has some good qualities you wish to have for your self try learning from her and improving your self by getting those qualities, being close to her is going to help you do that. and if she is friendly enough and you trust her ,you can ask her to help you without telling her 'I want to be you'. ask her 'how she has such amazing friends'.


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Re: So jealous... - September 10th 2009, 10:38 PM

Thanks for the replies!

I want to make friends but I have really bad social anxiety. I freak out every time I have to do anything that involves interaction with other people (besides my few close friends and immediate family), which is why I don't have that many friends or go out much.

I usually feel like a nobody, worthless, etc. But I try to remember that I'm special and worth something. I'm working on it. :P

Once again, thanks for the replies. They've helped a bit.
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Re: So jealous... - September 11th 2009, 05:21 AM

no worries always ready to help out. i'm certain you can overcome your anxiety ! we're all right behind you!


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