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My Mom Is Gonna Run My Life Forever! - January 22nd 2009, 06:30 AM

My mom decided to pull me aside the day before yesterday and tell me how i am to plan out my future..
And im not talking about the usual mommy-daughter talk... She said Exactly how my life was going to plan out.. And how what shes telling me to do is gonna benefit her the most and thats why she wants me to do it... ??? Seriously???.. Its my life and i feel I should plan out my life the way it would best benefit ME...
Yeah my family being taken care of would be great... but i dont think i should be put through something I DONT want to do just so my mother benefits...
   
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Re: My Mom Is Gonna Run My Life Forever! - January 22nd 2009, 11:19 AM

Oh man, I know exactly how you feel. Only my mum is a bit more smooth and manipulative about it. But, in two years, she has no say about what you do, maybe even sooner. I'd just do what you think will suit you best and make you happy in the long run, just try not to deliberately hurt your family. Its weird, most familys expect their children to take care of them when they get older, but I don't see them taking care of their parents like they expect us to.


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Re: My Mom Is Gonna Run My Life Forever! - January 22nd 2009, 11:37 AM

Well you're 16 and IMO I think that's old enough to know how you want to live your life. Explain to your mum that she's had the chance to live out her life and now it's your turn to choose what YOU want to do. I'm not sure whether she can actually make you do anything you don't want to so choose what you want to do, e.g take the courses YOU want or get the job YOU want. If she can stop you then when you're 18 try and do what you want to do as she won't be able to stop you then.


   
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Re: My Mom Is Gonna Run My Life Forever! - January 22nd 2009, 06:19 PM

That really sucks that your mom is planning your life so she can get benifited. At 16 you usally have figured out or or figuring out what you want to do with your life and if your going to collage and what collage. When you are 18 years old your offically and old and your mom has a say in stuff but she can controll your life. It seems like she is trying to live her life through you. Like she failed at what she wanted to do in her life so she is trying to forse you to do what she couldnt. AAll I cna say is that she cant make you live your life like that once you turn 18. It sucks that you have to listen to all of it for 2 more years. When she is telling you how to live your life in the back of your head just keep telling your self that you only have 2 more years of it then your free.


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Re: My Mom Is Gonna Run My Life Forever! - January 22nd 2009, 07:07 PM

I know how you feel. There isn't much you can do besides wait until you're legally able to make your own decisions. The important thing is not to let her discourage you from doing whatever you really want to do. But do try to take into account her feelings, and know that she probably has good intentions.
   
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Re: My Mom Is Gonna Run My Life Forever! - January 22nd 2009, 07:24 PM

that really sucks. Sorry, I can't give you much help there except to do what I do: act like your listening, then as soon as you can leave bolt outa there!
   
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Re: My Mom Is Gonna Run My Life Forever! - January 23rd 2009, 02:30 AM

The best way to handle this is to talk to your mom. Try to put yourself in her shoes (even though it's generally agreed that she's being kind of a dick), and then explain to her that it's your life, and you are not going to end up being one of those people living on the regret train.


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Re: My Mom Is Gonna Run My Life Forever! - January 23rd 2009, 06:31 AM

See.. but the thing is... I did tell my mom that its my life... and once i turn 18 she cant tell me what to do any more... Her exact words were "You may be an adult... But your still my child... and your still gonna listen to me"

so i dont see that working... =(

I can do what newbie said to do... but shed kill me... and shed probably hate me.. So i dont know if i can do that either...


So guess what??? lol Looks like Im going to be a Coast Gaurd for the Marines... Yay me..... :cry:
   
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Re: My Mom Is Gonna Run My Life Forever! - January 23rd 2009, 11:07 PM

Just do what I did, ignore everything she said & as soon as you turn 18, don't give a damn about what anyone has to say except yourself.
Same sorta crap happened to me when I was 16 & now I'm 18 & nobody is telling me anything anymore.
So just sit it through 'till you're 18.




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