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He won't stop asking me out... - September 11th 2009, 01:54 PM

I've known this guy for a couple of years and he's alright, makes me laugh and is good to talk to etc. But he's asked me out five times, and I've always said no. He just isn't my type. I've tried to let him down nicely but he never understood that, harsh as it sounds, I don't want any random boy. He's not the one for me and I won't date him for that reason. He had a girlfriend for a bit; naturally then he stopped bugging me. But now they've broken up he's come straight back to me. He won't stop texting me. It's not like I'm the only girl he wants - he's asked pretty much every girl he knows. It's not about me, it's about having a girlfriend. Any girlfriend. I feel sorry for him because he's obviously insecure and lonely, but I'm not dating him out of sympathy. I'm not dating him at all. How do I get the message across without hurting him, seeing as every other time I've tried he just doesn't get it?




   
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Re: He won't stop asking me out... - September 11th 2009, 02:55 PM

If you've been hinting that you don't want to date him and he still hasn't got the message yet, then just tell him outright.


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Re: He won't stop asking me out... - September 11th 2009, 04:05 PM

You're going to have to tell him outright, since he obviously won't get the message any other way. Naturally he'll be upset at getting turned down, but no matter what you do to tell him, you'll still be turning him down. He'll just have to come to terms with it and move on.

Just simply tell him you aren't interested and you appreciate the flattery, but your answer is no. I'm sure some of the other girls will have to do the same as well.
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Re: He won't stop asking me out... - September 12th 2009, 10:31 PM

This is the most horrible situation ever.
Date him for 5 minutes. Then dump him.

I was in this situation, I did that. It worked. He backed off.


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Re: He won't stop asking me out... - September 12th 2009, 10:53 PM

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This is the most horrible situation ever.
Date him for 5 minutes. Then dump him.

I was in this situation, I did that. It worked. He backed off.
I wouldn't do that it's basically playing with him. It's quite cruel really. Just be honest. Tell him you're not interested. You're flattered he likes you, but you just don't feel the same way and you'd appreciate if he wouldn't ask you about it anymore


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Re: He won't stop asking me out... - September 19th 2009, 08:09 PM

Thanks for your advice everyone. The straight honest truth was probably the best way to go.
I told him I wasn't going to change my mind, to which he replied "I knew that, I was only joking". It's quite sad really. Obviously he wasn't joking, he just didn't want to admit he thought he stood a chance.
I just hope it won't come between our friendship. We used to be good friends but when he asked me, and a dozen other girls out, I got the idea friendship isn't enough for him.




   
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