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Unhappy Friends and the Boyfriend versus the Family - September 13th 2009, 12:12 AM

So I went to hang out with a bunch of my friends and I met this guy. We hit it off and talked a lot for the next two weeks and I told my mom about him. I said I would tell her if anything happened, and then the third time I was supposed to see him [[didn't because I couldn't get a ride]] he asked me out over the phone. So I told my mom and she was all happy for me. As were the rest of the family and all my friends.
My mother is always questioning who everyone is when I mention a friend's name. She thinks I am incredibly popular and that I hang out with the pot-heads and the bad influences. And while some of my friends are into that, it's never around me and they're all so good about it[[plus she has no idea about them. she just thinks I'm into it I think...]].
So I'm supposed to hang out with my boyfriend tomorrow, and my mom is considering it. My dad won't even accept the fact that I have a boyfriend [[we've been going out for over 3 weeks now]], and my mom is only thinking about it because I took care of the dogs tonight. Like, I've cleaned the kitchen and done the dishes and fed and walked the animals, cleaned the bathroom and swept a bit in the living room. And they didn't notice. And I really miss him because I only get to see him like once a week, but it hurts that my parents don't even see how much I'm trying.
What should I do? Just keep doing what I'm doing and hope they notice eventually? I try talking to her about it, but she tunes out half of it. Or "forgets" it rather.


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Re: Friends and the Boyfriend versus the Family - September 13th 2009, 11:01 AM

hey heather.

sometimes parents can be overbearing, but the thing is during teenage years parents are supposed to care about us. but in this case, it might be overdoing it. Its part of growing up and maybe this time you should just do it behind your parents backs this is because during teenage years, parents might just think that whats right is wrong in some ways ( parents sometimes DO make the worst mistakes of all ) .

and you should keep doing it because no matter what happens, you're doing the right thing by being a helpful daughter. if they dont see it, then thats their loss. we're all definitely seeing the whole picture, and we're really proud of what you're doing

update us on how this goes, and nomatter what, stay strong and keep doing whatever you wish to do.

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Re: Friends and the Boyfriend versus the Family - September 13th 2009, 04:25 PM

Thanks. This week has been bloody hell for me. Until this morning, I don't recall hearing one thing of completely good news for awhile. So I guess I was mostly upset because I miss my boyfriend and I need to get out of this house. My mom asked me today what time the festival was today that he'd invited me to, and so basically I'm allowed to go.
She knows how stressed I've been at least over the last couple days, plus she's kind of noticed how much I've been trying to help out. But I guess some secrets are best kept secret... But I would rather be honest with them about him Ah well. We shall see how the rest of the day goes, I guess.


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Re: Friends and the Boyfriend versus the Family - September 13th 2009, 06:59 PM

she's beginning to warm up to the fact, and the thing is that she's probably realizing what you're going through i know you'll be able to get through everything, so hold your head up high.

as always tell us( or me ) how this goes. i know it'll all going to be alright in some way.


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Re: Friends and the Boyfriend versus the Family - September 13th 2009, 10:09 PM

Hey,
Congrats on the boyfriend!
I think sometimes it takes parents a while to see that their little girl is finally growing up and some parents take it pretty hard that their little girl has a boyfriend. I guess boyfriends are the first kind of big change for a parent to have to deal with, this is as new to them as it is to you. It's scary for them to know that soon you won't need them to do a lot for you.
Maybe you could introduce your boyfriend to them and see how that goes, if they've met him and spent some time with him hopefully they'll realise what a great guy he is and be more leaniant with you.
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