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Unhappy Dunno where to start, but I needa start somewhere. - October 4th 2009, 06:49 PM

I really dunno where I should start. My entire life is a complicated situation, really. But to make an extremely long story short. I think I'm in love with my best friend. I'm a guy, she's a girl, we met online when we were like 13, we've been best friends for like 5 years. I've had feelings for her, for a long time, I finaly confronted her about it, and it's not exactly mutual, I was crushed at the time, I still kinda am, but I told her I could settle with just friends, but I would always be open to it becoming something more, if she was ever interested. Here's the thing though; I still really like her, I can't stop thinking about her. She lives on the other side of the country, and it kills me not being with her, and not being able to be there when she needs someone to be.
The relationship isn't going to go anywhere, I already know this. I can't get over her and I can't just walk away and let it die...

I don't really know why I'm posting this (other than missing my anti-depresants for 2 days and feeling bad for myself, because I'm a dumb ass). Any advice is welcome though.
Thanks for reading...

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Re: Dunno where to start, but I needa start somewhere. - October 4th 2009, 07:07 PM

Hey Angelan.

I'm sorry that your situation didn't work out like you'd hoped, it can be really hard to be just friends with someone you care about. But to be honest, I don't think there is much you can do. You've told her how you feel, and you've left it open-ended so she can tell you if she changes her mind. I don't think you can do much more than that. I know it's hard, but if you push too much, you risk making awkward to even be friends.

My suggestion is to try to move on. Going out and meeting new people opens up chances to meet somone who feels the same way about you that you do about them, and that's what you deserve.
   
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Re: Dunno where to start, but I needa start somewhere. - October 4th 2009, 07:15 PM

Going out and meeting new people, is easier said than done...
I've got aspergers, Agoraphobia, and anxiety disorder, amongst other things. Between those 3 things though, it makes any social situation really difficult =|
   
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Re: Dunno where to start, but I needa start somewhere. - October 4th 2009, 07:24 PM

In that case, I would recommend talking to your parents, or school conselor. They can help you more than we can.
   
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Re: Dunno where to start, but I needa start somewhere. - October 4th 2009, 07:37 PM

Yeah, I've been waiting to get in to see a councilor for almost a year, and I finaly got in to see them, and then after the first appointment they got sick, and now I have to wait another week to start...
I haven't actually been going to school since february because of my problems and stuff... I don't have a very open relationship with my parents, my dad has the same problems I do (put 2 anti social people together, tell them to talk, lemme know how it goes) and when I try to talk to my mom, she just doesn't get it, and usually ends up crying because she "just hates to see me strugling".
The person I've talked to about all my problems, and advice, just happens to be the person I have feelings for...
I know I'm probably sounding like I just want to be hopeless or something, which maybe I do, I don't know. I'm just really not sure what to do any more...
   
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