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Mom pushing me too much/stress - November 8th 2009, 02:40 AM

Hi, I'm an 11th grader and I've always pushed myself pretty hard. Take this year, I'm taking Honors Pre-Calc, Honors French V, AP United States History, AP Literature, Honors Bioethics, and my school's Emergency Medical Technician class. So I've got lots of homework and outside of that I take dance classes 3 nights a week, have Nutcracker Ballet rehearsals on the weekends, I run and arrange all the music for my own pop choir, do the school's musical, and work at a chiropractor's office.

I know that sounds like I lot, but I've always managed to deal fine with that amount of work. But for some reason this year my mom started sitting on me about everything. She won't let me relax and just watch tv if I want to because she wants me to always be doing homework, if I come downstairs she asks me if I'm taking a break. She yells at me for something at least once a day and usually it's something that doesn't even make sense. Like the other day someone called and didn't give me their name before hanging up and she yelled at me for not telling her that they called.

I love my mom, because I know she cares about me and when she's nice to me she's really nice to me. But it's like I put so much pressure on myself, once she started adding all of her's it got to be too much.

I'm also stressed out because my dad got a new job 6 hours away from where we live and he's going to be moving. My mom will stay with me until I finish high school, but as soon as I graduate she'll move to so I feel like I'll never actually get to go home while I'm in college.

I just feel like everything this year is changing and I don't know how to handle it. I'm not the type of person that likes talking to adults about my problems, and I just don't know how to cope.
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Re: Mom pushing me too much/stress - November 8th 2009, 09:45 PM

Hey Keira, I'm sorry your mom is putting so much pressure on you right now, it really isn't much fun. She might be doing it because you'll have to start applying to colleges soon and she wants to make sure your grades stay good. She could also be stressed out about the thing with your dad and it comes out as anger at you. That doesn't really make it any better though. Also, welcome to the site.
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Re: Mom pushing me too much/stress - November 8th 2009, 09:52 PM

Hey Keira,

Have you tried talking to your Mom about this? It's possible that she doesn't realize that what she's doing is putting more pressure on you. If she gets angry when you try talking to her, give it a few days and try again. Or see if your Dad or someone else can try explaining to her that she's making you feel a little more stressed out and that you aren't intentionally trying to cause problems. With your Dad's new job and moving, she may be under some stress herself.

Also, in terms of your parents moving/college, you will have time to go home if you choose to stay there. It won't be nearly the same as things are now, but the opportunities will be there. You could even end up going to a college closer to your parents, but that's something to consider when you start applications.
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Re: Mom pushing me too much/stress - November 11th 2009, 04:51 PM

Hey Keira, sorry about the stress. Take some time for yourself and just relax, as for your mom, talk to her, if she starts shouting at you just stay calm and don't react, finish whatever it is at the time you need to do and try not to anger her also. When she is calm and in a good mood talk to her and tell her of the pressure she is putting on you. Remember, you need to walk slowly along this situation because you my reach your breaking point and you won't like it.
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Re: Mom pushing me too much/stress - April 5th 2010, 06:24 PM

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I guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons.
And maybe we’ll never know most of them.
But even if we don’t have the power to choose where we come from,
we can still choose where we go from there.
We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them.

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