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Er... Is this normal? - November 15th 2009, 12:38 AM

I'm not sure if this is necessarily a bad thing or a good thing, but it seems lately that me and one of my friends only communicate through randomness and humour. We have had in depth discussions about various subjects before, but it's like we don't know how to converse like regular people do. A lot of our conversations (especially online ones) are purely based on something funny or amusing. Are most people like that anyway?

Another thing that's odd is we love to pick on each other. Everything is a competition. It's all good, light-hearted fun and neither of us are ever serious, but it seems so juvenile to me. Not that it's a bad thing. It's just kind of weird to me that this is how we communicate.

Does anyone else know how I feel? Is this kind of stuff normal for friends? Am I overthinking this ?
   
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Re: Er... Is this normal? - November 15th 2009, 01:23 AM

none of taht is a bad thing at all....me and my "friend" used to do taht we had so many jokes taht only we could understand and people would just look at us like we were on crack but it's just friendship stuff I wouldn't worry about it at all.


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Re: Er... Is this normal? - November 15th 2009, 02:27 AM

I wouldn't recommend this with ALL your friends, but if it's just one friend I don't think it's too awful. It's a release from pressure and stuff. I have a few friends like this, but more that I at least kind of hald in depth conversations with. Only 1 or 2 that really know anything, and one of them doesn't know all that much, as we usually just joke around.

Anyway, if you're too bothered by it, maybe mention it to them? be like "why don't we ever have a real conversation?"
But I don't mind too much just having a joke around friend. I don't think it's wierd personally.



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Re: Er... Is this normal? - November 15th 2009, 04:20 AM

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I'm not sure if this is necessarily a bad thing or a good thing, but it seems lately that me and one of my friends only communicate through randomness and humour. We have had in depth discussions about various subjects before, but it's like we don't know how to converse like regular people do. A lot of our conversations (especially online ones) are purely based on something funny or amusing. Are most people like that anyway?

Another thing that's odd is we love to pick on each other. Everything is a competition. It's all good, light-hearted fun and neither of us are ever serious, but it seems so juvenile to me. Not that it's a bad thing. It's just kind of weird to me that this is how we communicate.

Does anyone else know how I feel? Is this kind of stuff normal for friends? Am I overthinking this ?
One of my friends acts that way with me...it's so strange and just awkward.

When we're with other friends she's always making fun of me. I always make fun of myself too but I just feel like she's doing it to like assert herself...she seems a lot more competitive with me than I am with her.

I just talk about whatever's on my mind by nature so when it's just me and her I'm always the one to initiate. She'll talk about it with me but the conversations she starts with me have no substance. It's just like "how you been?" which I guess would be ok if there was more to it but it's not. It's frustrating because I feel like I am really trying to know more about her and to tell her things about myself so she might feel more comfortable but it's not working!

I don't understand her sense of humor. So when she makes a joke and laughs it just gets sooo awkward I don't know what to do so I offer this awkward laugh that I can't even pretend sounds realistic because it's so forced. "Ha hahaha ha."

Umm I don't really like this friendship. lol. I actually try to avoid her (the only place I can't do that is school.) I don't think she even likes me. It sometimes seems like a "friends with friends' friends" () obligation. But I'm not sure if I like her. She came over a few times and the one thing my mom said was "She seems nice...but she's insincere." Honestly, to me, it seems like when we interact we are constantly gritting our teeth. Hopefully that's not the way with you guys but the feeling sounds similar. When I read your post I was thinking "Oh man, finally someone else who feels like this!" lol
   
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Re: Er... Is this normal? - November 15th 2009, 10:03 AM

I think its normal, lots of people dont really like deep conversations and she probably just finds it fun messing around. I am like that, id much prefer to be silly but from what you said it sounds like she would have a seriuous conversation if you wanted. Do you enjoy bwing silly with her? if you have fun then there is no problem at all. Dont worry about it seeming childish, growing up doesnt mean you have to be serious
   
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