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Cant focus - January 27th 2009, 02:55 PM

So we only have internet in the living room. Mum wont let me get in anywhere else. Yet she comes in, talks to me, puts tv on. And i cant focus on my work at all.
It's really stresisng me out, as I have a ton of deadlines. And have to get an essay done for tomorow, and research. And it's just talk talk talk.

I really need music to focus, but she asked me to put it of fair enough. But then i need silence. And she wont give it to me


   
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Re: Cant focus - January 27th 2009, 03:37 PM

Have you tried talking to her about it? Maybe if she heard your point of view she might understand that she's distracting you. If not, then could you try using something like an MP3 player, iPod, portable CD player, or maybe even listening to music on the computer with headphones?


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Re: Cant focus - January 27th 2009, 03:40 PM

I do have headphones in, but it doesnt drown out the tv or her talking. If i ignore her talking, or dont hear her due to music, she starts screaming at me.

I've tried talking to her, and all she says is that it's a communual room, and that she can do what she wants, and that it's rude not to talk to her.


   
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Re: Cant focus - January 27th 2009, 03:46 PM

Wow, that's too bad. Do you think if you asked her again you could use a computer at school or the library, or even a friends house? It doesn't sound like she understands how much schoolwork you have to do.


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Re: Cant focus - January 27th 2009, 04:03 PM

I use school, and library until 6 when it shuts. Cant go to friends, as not allowed out in evening. Just finding it stresful as I dont seem to be getting any work done.


   
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Re: Cant focus - January 27th 2009, 04:46 PM

It seems like you'll have to beg your mother to understand your situation. If she doesn't ... then I do not know. You'll have to try your hardest to make her understand.


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Re: Cant focus - January 27th 2009, 04:51 PM

I'm going to move this to friends and family since it seems to be more about you and your mother rather than an inherent inability to focus on work.

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Re: Cant focus - January 27th 2009, 06:54 PM

LOL. I have the same problem. Except when I try to tell my mom that I'm doing my homework, the subsequent reply is, "I'm watching Friends! I'll turn it off when it is finished."

Which is then followed by four hours of nonstop earshattering noise while I try to complete my essay. :P

It seems like you'll just be forced to grin and bear it. Even if it takes you forever to do your work, you know it needs to get done. You could also try to move the computer/modem.

Or, if you're really cheeky, you can tell her that your work is more important than her mindless babble--Which I totally don't recommend saying unless you're prepared to get thrown out of the house. xD


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Re: Cant focus - January 27th 2009, 08:03 PM

Maybe you can tell your mom that it's your future. If she doesn't want you staying in the house all day doing nothing in your future, she should just let you work for a better future right now.
   
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Re: Cant focus - January 28th 2009, 05:28 PM

Hi Maia,

I think you really need to stress how important these deadlines are to your mom and ask her nicely to keep it down when you are working. That's really the best you can do at home, unless you save up and buy your own computer to do your work on.

Whenever you can, you should try and go to the library as much as possible. Maybe do your research there and if you can buy a cheap computer, do the essay writing on that one.

I hope this works out for you.
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