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I honestly don't like my mom. - January 6th 2010, 05:26 AM

People say it a lot, but I really mean it. Here's why:

My mom's an alcoholic. On many occasions she has told me that it's my fault because my existence has made her life extremely difficult due to a number of medical issues and my depression.

All she does is talk badly about other people. My sisters and I have noticed that if one of us isn't in the room, that person will be insulted by her many times before they return. Seriously, we're her kids. It just seems so wrong. And if she's run out of things to say about someone, she'll move on to someone else. She loves to talk s*** about my dad most, because she's cheated on him before, so I guess she thinks he's cheated on her, too.

Other than that, we just fight all the time. The whole family fights with her, really. My dad has told us he has been thinking about divorcing her, and all of us agree. Really, it may sound harsh, but I feel like she isn't even related to us. It feels like she's a step-mom.

I've resorted to hiding in my room and sleeping all through the day to avoid seeing her. I know it isn't healthy and I know it needs to stop, I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm the last one left at home and I feel helpless. This was really just a rant, but if you have any input, I'm all for it.


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Re: I honestly don't like my mom. - January 6th 2010, 07:37 PM

Well, really there is not much to say about your situation except to applaud you for not seeking a fight with her when you are left home. Live your life and don't fight with her when she starts talking non-sense. Just let her talk till she is finished.

Also if you can, perhaps try talking to her just one more time when she is not drunk but it will still be a very very hard challenge. But it is worth the try.
   
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Re: I honestly don't like my mom. - January 6th 2010, 10:50 PM

Hi Courtney,

It sounds like you mom has been really difficult to be around, and I'm sorry she has been treating you and your family this way. Talking about people behind their back is never a good thing to do, and it isn't fair that she is taking it out on you.

What I suggest you do is remind your father of your support in his thoughts of divorce. If he believes it's the right thing to do for the family and he is able to support you, then that seems like the best option. If your parents are concerned about one another cheating and it is getting between their relationship, then divorce is an option they should look into. The final decision about it needs to happen between your parents, but make your dad aware of how your mother is treating you and that you want to be able to live a healthy life at home.

Another thing I would suggest is to get outside instead of staying in your room all day. Try to get out for walks, or join a club, group, or activity in your area. Take it upon yourself to get active and work on keeping up a healthy schedule. It'll give you an opportunity to get away from your mom for a while and still have some fun. Maybe bring a friend or your dad along with you if you want to be around others.

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Re: I honestly don't like my mom. - January 7th 2010, 07:57 PM

Hmm this is quite a tricky one. Gosh if I was you I would have gone crazy by now, so I would say well done on trying to keep the peace by not picking fights. Thats quite good of you.
Im sorry to hear that things are like that for you. It must be hard.
   
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Re: I honestly don't like my mom. - January 9th 2010, 04:52 AM

Hope things get better.


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Re: I honestly don't like my mom. - January 9th 2010, 06:04 PM

Hey there Courtney. How is the situation now? I know it has been only about 3 days but did things get settled even a bit or is the situation still the same ?

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