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My mom guilt trips me all the time!... - January 9th 2010, 10:07 PM

Okay, so my mom always tries to act like she's the best mom ever by not fighting with me about stuff, but she guilt trips me about everything! Like, when she found out about me being bisexual, she guilt tripped me into hating myself for being bi. And she keeps making me feel terrible about not wanting to be a doctor, and about having a C in math, and sometimes even just not liking a song she does or wearing my clothes that SHE thinks looks cute on me! Like, I already feel bad about enough about most of this stuff, she's just making me feel worse! Plus, she shouldn't feel so good about herself because she does this!!!!!!!... I just wanted to rant.
   
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Re: My mom guilt trips me all the time!... - January 11th 2010, 09:25 PM

Hey Megan,

I'm glad you were able to get this out. Sometimes it really helps to rant a bit to get stuff like this off our shoulders. It sounds like your mom is very frustrating with how she is guilt tripping you into feeling how she wants you to feel. That isn't fair to you at all, and I'm sure it's getting very annoying.

I think you honestly need to tell your mom how you feel about what she is saying to you. Make it completely clear to her that she is making you feel bad and you would like her to support you. Try using direct statements, like "I feel like *this* when you say *that*". I think this is something you need to be upfront about, but do your best to say it calmly. An argument really wont solve anything, and she will be more likely to listen to you if you speak calmly with her.

If your mom continues, what I suggest you do is block out what she is saying. Ultimately you are the one to make the decisions in your life, and it doesn't really matter what your mom wants you to be or who your mom wants you to be. You get to make that choice and I'm sure you'll make the one that suits you best.

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Re: My mom guilt trips me all the time!... - January 12th 2010, 07:11 PM

Hey Megan!

Nat has given you some great advice up there ^^. I can't really add anything else - I just want to reiterate what she said about talking to your Mum.

You don't deserve to be treated the way you currently are, and you should definitely talk to your Mum and tell her how it feels when she says certain things. I understand how hard it is not being the person your parents want you to be - but I've found that by telling them what hurts, and how pressuring me in school doesn't help - they've become a little more supportive of who I am as a person :]

No matter what you do though - be yourself! Don't change because one person doesn't like the things you like!

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