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Roommate - January 30th 2009, 12:17 AM

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I'm going to rant about my roommate right now! I'm really fed up with her. I'm in second year of University, and I'm living in a townhouse with her. Here's the problem: she has this friend that is ALWAYS at our place. Everyday. All the time. This friend doesn't even go to our university, she goes to another university about an hour away (her school as been on strike, therefore she has been here for about 2 months). When I first met them they came off as just best friends. But then I started to think it was something more. After a couple weeks I found out that they are infact, lesbians. I have nothing against gay people, but it makes me kind of uncomfortable because neither of them came out and told me they were gay, I found out when I came home one day and heard them having sex in the bedroom beside mine. Anyways, it makes me really mad that my roommates friend (or girlfriend, I guess) is always here. I'm paying to live here, and she's not...yet she uses our water, makes a mess in our kitchen, takes up room with all her stuff, uses toilet paper and stuff that I buy. It just bugs me. Also, the two of them pile the kitchen table with their stuff, and are always hogging the couches in our living room. And the girlfriend just used the shower and now we have no hot water left. AHH! I'm just so frustrated. My roommate never asked me if it was ok if her friend stayed with us, she all of the sudden was just here all the time.
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Re: Roommate - January 30th 2009, 08:16 AM

ah, that sounds rather annoying! i guess all you can do is talk to your roomate and tell her how you feel. it probably will be very awkward, because if its her gf shes probably not going to appreciate your point of view. is there any way you could move out and live with someone else? or they could move somewhere else and you could get a new roomate? hm, well it seems that the problem might kinda solve itself when the girlfriend goes back to her uni, but in the mean time you may just have to grin and bear it. also, if shes using your stuff without paying, maybe suggest to your roomate that you dont mind if she stays but she could at least pay some rent?

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Re: Roommate - January 30th 2009, 08:19 AM

Having been with roommates, I'm going to tell you to talk to her. Issues like this have a chance of being resolved if you actually let them be known.

Like you said, your roommate never made sure it was OK and you have all the right to bring it up with her. it is highly possible that she honestly doesn't see it as an issue, since she hasn't heard any complaints for you.
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Re: Roommate - January 30th 2009, 09:31 AM

2 months is a long time and it probably violates your guys' lease. Are you both on the lease? She should be paying rent after two months and so you might be able to complain to the landlord. Yes, the roommate pays rent but she is not the only person paying rent.

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Re: Roommate - January 30th 2009, 08:24 PM

You should definitely talk to your roommate about it. It was really inconsiderate of her to not ask and 2 months is a long time for someone to be staying there without your consent too. Talk to her and explain how you're feeling.

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