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HIV - May 14th 2010, 04:50 PM

So, I thought I posted this last night but I can't find the thread. I looked everywhere. If this happens to be a duplicate thread then I am sorry.

My friend and I were talking and it turns out he has HIV. He has had it for a while, it is not like he just found out, but it is the first time he told me. I am one of the few people in our group that knows.

When he first told me my initial reaction was to run away. I felt so bad but at the same time all these irrational thoughts kept racing through my mind. I could end up with HIV if we hang out. Something could happen and I could get it and die or never have a family.

Of course I was able to rationalize out of that but I felt like shit for having those thoughts. I should not have thought that. It is really hard to get HIV unless there is blood to blood, seman to seman. I know that it was just a shock.

Now, all of it is just kind of surreal. I feel so bad for him and scared for him. To have to deal with that for the rest of his life? Knowing that it is going to affect his ability to get into a relationship etc would be hard. Then I keep thinking what if he dies? He is such a great guy and what if he dies?

Now, I know why when I make comments about him finding a really good person to date or whatever he is so skeptical. If that were me I would be skeptical too. So many people are afraid of that disease (they have every reason to be) and it would be hard to get with someone who has it. He has been turned down because of it and I feel so bad. To have to deal with HIV, his other life problems and then possibly have to deal with the fact that he might die soon or whatever. It is horrible.

I know that treatment for HIV has gotten better and he doesn't have AIDS which is good. But it is scary to think that at any point he could go into the doctors office and hear that the disease is progressing or whatever.

I just, it is crazy to think I know someone with HIV. He made one mistake and got it. How horrible!

That is why I know I won't have a one night stand because I am paranoid as it is and hearing my friends story was more fuel to the fire. I don't want to get HIV because if I did it would ruin my life. I would just lose everything I am working towards.

I felt bad too because he was saying how he can't have kids like normal people can, can't get into a relationship like normal people, etc and now I realize why he says that and it breaks my heart because it is true to an extent. I just am so scared for him now. I want them to find a cure for this now because he shouldn't have to live with something so stupid and deadly.

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Re: HIV - May 14th 2010, 05:00 PM

Hey there,

It's a horrible disease, but you are right, medicine can keep them alive longer now. They can live for several years after having HIV. I'm in phlebotomy training and I'm going to be exposed to people with this everyday. It's best to just treat them like a regular person and be careful if they are injured. I know It's tough but the best thing to do is love them the same and not really bring it up.

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Re: HIV - May 14th 2010, 05:32 PM

Medicine technology... disease immunisation, all that stuff is progressing extremely fast. I even heard that a cure for certain types of cancers was found... and it went as far as hitting the headlines in the UK, but then for some reason died down and Ive not heard of it since at all.

Anyhow... I heard that a person can have a life expectancy on average of even up to 30 years, if treatment of HIV is started at a reasonably early stage. 30 years, is a lot of time. And think what other progress will be made in the next 30 years, perhaps even a permanent cure. If he looks after himself, he stands a very good chance to have a fairly long life. Of course he will have trouble with relationships, and having kids in the future, but that's something that unfortunately hardly anything can be done about. But... he doesn't have AIDS as you said, which is good news.

Hopefully things look brighter for you now

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