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Is this how friendships are supposed to work? - May 28th 2010, 03:53 AM

So I have these couple of very good friends, and we tend to hang out in smaller groups. Well, two of these friends have known each other for a long time and when they hang out, they tend to just sort of let the conversation....flounder, because they know each other so well they honestly don't really need conversation. I get this, I really do. But its very weird for me when I'm with them, because I feel odd sans conversation, like its awkward for me but not them. I can never seem to let go as easily with them as I can my other friends, and its a lot more difficult to have fun with them, but they help me through tough times and when we have fun we REALLY have fun. So now I'm very confused. Is this how friendships are supposed to work?
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Re: Is this how friendships are supposed to work? - May 28th 2010, 05:29 AM

Some people just don't feel the need to talk all the time. =P With some of my friends, I LOVE to discuss things I've heard in the news, read on the internet, etc. With other friends, I like to watch movies, play board games, or just have a drink. We don't really talk... we just do things together and enjoy one another's company.

That's just one-on-one. Once you have a group of friends, the dynamics can be a little "off" for some people. They may feel the need to talk all the time, because they don't like the awkward silences... or they may be intimidated by the constant chatter, and want to go somewhere quiet.

Talk to your friends about this. If it's really too awkward for you, why not find something to do during the dull moments, like read a book? Then, once they're ready to talk again, you can put the book down and join in. =) Oftentimes, I'll grab my laptop and sit in the same room as my friends, until they're ready to do something I'm interested in... but I don't force my presence on them, and vice versa. When we're ready, we come together as a group, with the same goal in mind, and have a blast! =D






   
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Re: Is this how friendships are supposed to work? - June 5th 2010, 04:26 AM

Stop worrying about whether it's awkward or not.
To be friends with someone you should feel relaxed around them.
   
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Re: Is this how friendships are supposed to work? - June 6th 2010, 12:40 AM

Everbody is differn't & so is friendship, so no worries bud.
If you feel that it is really bothering you, just bring it up with them, like if they woudn't mind talking when your their :-).
   
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Re: Is this how friendships are supposed to work? - June 6th 2010, 01:34 AM

Well, yeah, you are meant to feel comfortable around your friends, in silence or not. Obviously if they're newer friends maybe you're not at that point yet.



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