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Help with pregnant friend. - July 2nd 2010, 01:34 PM

Basically two of my friends are having a baby together, i'm really happy for them they've been together 6 years it was bound to happen sooner or later.

But there's one thing, which i feel SO awful about and guilty about because the feeling just come from nowhere. I think i might be jealous of my friend because she's pregnant. But i don't know why, i mean i'm only 19. Me and my boyfriend plan on having kids in the future but i'm too young and we're no where near in the position financially to have a baby. I've always loved kids and i'm great with my 4 young cousins, they love me and i love them very much. I guess it's just that i've always had a maternal side, and if i'm honest i would love nothing more than to have a family, but i know i have to wait.

No one knows i feel like this not even my boyfriend or my friends. I don't really want to tell anyone because they'll just think i'm being selfish (which i am) i just want to get over it as soon as possible so i can be happy for my friends (which i am) without longing for something which will come in the future anyway. I'm not going to let it get in the way of friendship because that's the stupidest thing ever, i want to be there for my friends and support them but without that feeling.

I have a feeling it will go away on it's own given a bit of time, has anyone else felt like this? I'm just being rediculous aren't i? :\
   
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Re: Help with pregnant friend. - July 2nd 2010, 03:14 PM

You aren't being ridiculous. It's fairly normal to find yourself feeling jealous of what is happening to someone else, it happens to all of us. It's hard to say why you're feeling jealous since there are all kinds of possibilities. It'll fade away and get easier with time, just keep reminding yourself that you have no reason to be jealous. =)

Like you said yourself, you know this will be you in the future, so use that as something to focus on. Down the road, it'll be your friends being happy for you.
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Re: Help with pregnant friend. - July 3rd 2010, 06:58 PM

I have never felt like that, but then again I do not think children are for me anyway. You said yourself that it is not time yet, so maybe you could try babysitting the child some you could help and be around the child without such a huge commitment.
   
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