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its not fair that they treat me this way - September 16th 2010, 09:15 PM

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So i was born with a genetic disorder called neurofibromatosis and my mom has this site to keep all our friends and family updated with everything thats going on with me. i noticed that about 90% of my relatives had started to visit and sign my guestbook on my site less and less. then my brother nicks high school graduation came around and around the same time i had a procudure done, EVERYONE sentmy brother graduation cards and stuff, but not one relative siged my guestbook or sent me anything, it didnt matter what was going on our relatives always sent me cards too even if it was my brother nicks birthday or my brother stephens birthday or whatever. it just stopped, dont get me wrong i am beyond greatful and thankfull and appreactive of the friends and family that do send me cards and sign my guestbook. but the fact that most of them stopped caring and gave up on me hurts! i feel like that they see me as nothing but a fat failure like i will never do anything with my life. i'm tired of those relatives who don't care about me who care about the rest of the family are always sending my brothers things i feel so left out.
i wish that thoe relatives who dont careabout me would love and care about me again. i want them to be proud of me for the things that i have accomplished in my life. its not fair that my own relatives would


I was born with a genetic disorder called neurofibromatosis, it causes tumors to grow in my body on nerves,my spine,and under my skin. I have a tumor in the thalamus region of my brain. I also have heartburn,hypothyroidism and secondary adrenal insufficiency these are under control with medication.
I also have hip dysplasia and scoliosis.




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Re: its not fair that they treat me this way - September 17th 2010, 02:54 AM

Do your relatives express their love and support for you in other ways? Or have they only done so by signing the guestbook on your mother's website? Could it be that your relatives are still visiting the website, but just aren't taking the time to sign the guestbook every single time there's a new update?

If you miss your relatives that much, why not give them a call? =) I know you're in a great deal of pain due to your genetic disorder... so maybe you could just pick a few relatives and give each one a call at some point during the week, for as long as you can manage to stay on the phone. If you can't call your relatives, why not send them an e-mail? Ask them how they're doing, and I'm sure they'll want to find out how you're doing in return.

The problem with websites is that they can seem so... impersonal. It's hard to empathize with someone when the only way to communicate is via a website's guestbook. It's MUCH easier to empathize with someone when you speak to them over the phone, or have a personal conversation via e-mail. Basically, you may need to put in a bit of effort on your end, and make sure the communication is going two ways. Your relatives DO care about you... but it wouldn't hurt to take an active interest in your relatives in return. That shows them that their comments ARE important to you, and it'll encourage them to CONTINUE demonstrating their love and support for you across multiple mediums (not just via the guestbook =P).





   
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Re: its not fair that they treat me this way - September 20th 2010, 06:43 PM

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Do your relatives express their love and support for you in other ways? Or have they only done so by signing the guestbook on your mother's website? Could it be that your relatives are still visiting the website, but just aren't taking the time to sign the guestbook every single time there's a new update?

If you miss your relatives that much, why not give them a call? =) I know you're in a great deal of pain due to your genetic disorder... so maybe you could just pick a few relatives and give each one a call at some point during the week, for as long as you can manage to stay on the phone. If you can't call your relatives, why not send them an e-mail? Ask them how they're doing, and I'm sure they'll want to find out how you're doing in return.

The problem with websites is that they can seem so... impersonal. It's hard to empathize with someone when the only way to communicate is via a website's guestbook. It's MUCH easier to empathize with someone when you speak to them over the phone, or have a personal conversation via e-mail. Basically, you may need to put in a bit of effort on your end, and make sure the communication is going two ways. Your relatives DO care about you... but it wouldn't hurt to take an active interest in your relatives in return. That shows them that their comments ARE important to you, and it'll encourage them to CONTINUE demonstrating their love and support for you across multiple mediums (not just via the guestbook =P).
We tried everything you suggested but nobody EVER responds or calls back
I recently had my 19th birthday and I heard from TWO relatives. It's not fair


I was born with a genetic disorder called neurofibromatosis, it causes tumors to grow in my body on nerves,my spine,and under my skin. I have a tumor in the thalamus region of my brain. I also have heartburn,hypothyroidism and secondary adrenal insufficiency these are under control with medication.
I also have hip dysplasia and scoliosis.




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