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how do i make them understand this - October 9th 2010, 08:42 PM

okay, so ive wasted SOOO much time arguing with my parents about the financial side of college applications.

the problem is that my mom can get two scholarship through her work. she practically switched jobs so she could get these scholarships, but only once she switched did she find out this:
-one list has a very limited selection of schools. i only like one school on the list and my parents consider it to be too far away.
-then, theres another scholarship which has a lot of schools i could use to get it. the problem is i have to decide now which school i want to apply the scholarship to now. there is a very low chance my mom will acutally get this one and the school i apply it towards has to accepts it. my mom still has to check the chances the school i want to apply it towards accepts it. shes basically arguing with me because shes scared it wont (i told her to continue this convo once she has acutally checked.)

but yeah, what i decided is:
-i will apply to my top choice schools to see what kind of scholarships they give me
-i already got into our state school and i love that school. if my parents would shut up about financial shit i would just go there and be happy. but noooo.... but yeah, if my moms scholarships dont work then im definately going there
-im going to apply for both of my moms scholarships and see what happens. im going to apply to my favorite schools because, even if i have a lower chance of going, id rather risk it to go there.

so yeah, how do i make it clear to my parents that, even thought they are paying for about 10k per year, the rest is on me? if i end up with a huge loan to pay off, thats my freaking problem. also, arguing about this shit before i even get financial packages is a waste of time. i need to spend my time doign apps (i have two due by nov 1st and one of them has a huge hometest) and NOT arguing with them. like literally yesterday i wanted to start the third part of my hometest and I couldnt because of all the time i wasted arguing with them (which we never get anywhere)

soo yeah.. how do i tell them to back off?
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Re: how do i make them understand this - October 9th 2010, 11:20 PM

I'm currently applying to graduate school/professional psychology programs, so I know how you feel! Unfortunately, the programs I'm looking at don't offer grants... just loans and the rare scholarship. I want to deal with everything later on, but on the other hand, I know my dad wants to start getting things in order now.

If I were you, I would make a calendar for the next 12 months (October - September), and write down all your application due dates, financial due dates, interview dates, general test dates, etc. Show this calendar to your mother, so she can visually see what your priorities need to be.

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