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Exclamation Don't want to be her friend? Help!!! - October 11th 2010, 01:51 AM

So I've been getting to know a girl in one of my classes, and at first I thought we could be friends. But over some conversations over facebook and the way she greets me in class and has to tell me everything that has happened since I saw her last makes it feel like she's desperate for a friend. Too desperate for me to be able to be in a comfortable friendship (I'm already struggling with another friend who is clinging on to me like a drowning person).

Recently we had a "friendly" political debate where I defended my viewpoint and I don't think she liked it. She kinda stopped talking to me for a few days, but now she wants to know if I'm mad. I told her no, but I also really don't want to encourage her because I really don't want to be in a friendship with her!

How do I assure her that I am not mad, but not have it go back to the way it was?! I know this is long, and that I must sound terribly mean, but any advice (as soon as possible) would be great!


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Re: Don't want to be her friend? Help!!! - October 11th 2010, 02:04 AM

You don't sound mean. Just explain to her that you are not mad about the situation. And also just explain to her that you like her as a person and yes a friend but that you feel that she is sharing to much and that you feel it is smothering you a bit. Explain to her that you feel like she is being somewhat clingy and you can not handle it. Its not mean and your not being mean in feeling this way. It is your life and your feelings and you have the right not to feel the way you are feeling. You also have the right to tell her how you are feeling and if that hurts her then apologize for hurting her but at the end of the day you need to be true to yourself.


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Re: Don't want to be her friend? Help!!! - October 11th 2010, 02:15 AM

Thanks! you're right, I just need to tell her nicely!


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