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Should I tell her? - December 2nd 2010, 03:58 AM

I hope this isn't confusing, but i'll start off by saying my best friend (or my old best friend), lets call her Jamie.. and re-kindled our relationship this year. We were really close for 4 years straight, had a falling out, didn't speak for a year, and recently started talking. Its not the same, but we talk frequently and such. I have another friend, we'll call her Rachel, who i became friends with during the year i didn't talk to Jamie. Me and Rachel aren't as close as Jamie and I was, but I feel more "comfortable" i guess around Rachel.

Anyways, Jamie and Rachel know each other, and I think Jamie thinks they're friends. Rachel tells me that her and her friends don't like Jamie, but Jamie doesn't know. I was wondering, should I give Jamie a heads up? Although our relationship isn't the same, I'm starting to feel bad for not telling her. I think i can trust her not to say i told her, but I'm not confident.

The pros of telling her is that she knows whats going on. The possible cons are Jamie says "he told me.."/I lose Jamie as a friend. The pros of me NOT telling her are i stay out of this girl drama (lol)/both stay my friends. The cons of not telling her are she doesn't know whats happening/if she finds out i know whats going on she'll be mad.

I don't know what to do.. Any advice would be helpful.. Thanks to whoever read this lol.
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Re: Should I tell her? - December 2nd 2010, 10:59 AM

Hey there,

Personally, I think you shouldn't say anything. It sounds like there would definitely be a lot of drama, and it's probably going to be better for you if you don't stick your nose in.

I know it would be hard for you to watch this happening, but maybe she'll catch on soon.

Take care.

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Re: Should I tell her? - December 3rd 2010, 11:03 PM

Be a god person and tell her. Friendship is not based on lies. If you are her friend then be honest with her. And yes choosing this may bring about a fallout where Rachel and the others see you a traitor or something. Talk to Rachel too.

But it may end up to a point (possibly) where you have to pick sides !! If this occurs choose the right thing to do. If still conflicted and another situation arises, then come back and we'l talk more.

I came here to help out, so if you wanna talk or just need someone to bounce ideas or issues off of or something else then send me a message and I will reply as soon as I can.
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Re: Should I tell her? - December 9th 2010, 07:40 PM

Thanks guys for your input. I decided not to say anything, figuring if it was that serious of a problem, it would be addressed by one of them. Anyways nothings happened since and it's not a problem anymore (I haven't heard anything..). Thanks again.
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