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I'm not sure what to say to my friend. Her dad just died. - February 5th 2011, 05:17 PM

So i found out yesterday my friends dad died 3 days ago. We used to be best friends but now we barely talk. I might be going over to her house this weekend with my mom to see if there is anything we can do, I'm probably going to bake cookies for them but I have no idea what to say to her. They don't know what happened to him. He is in the navy and was found dead in his corridor. Any suggestions on what to say ? I don't want to say the wrong thing, but I don't want to say nothing either.
   
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Re: I'm not sure what to say to my friend. Her dad just died. - February 5th 2011, 06:23 PM

If he just died randomly there's only 2 likely causes. I'm not going to say them because it probably doesn't help you at all.

But you don't need to say anything. You could say "I'm very sorry for your loss, if you need someone to talk to I'm here" or something similar if you want, but you don't need to say anything.



I should also add if she wants to talk it's probably good for you to talk! But if she doesn't then don't. Some people can be made much happier if you talk to them or some people can go from being OK to suicidal.

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Re: I'm not sure what to say to my friend. Her dad just died. - February 5th 2011, 10:21 PM

Hey Sam,

I'm so sorry that you're in this situation.

Here's what I think you should do. Definitely bake her some cookies, go to her house. And give her a great, big hug. You shouldn't feel the need to say anything; I think in that situation a hug says so much more than your words can. But let her know that she can talk to you, and that you will be there for her.

Don't be afraid of silence.

May your friend's father rest in peace.


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Re: I'm not sure what to say to my friend. Her dad just died. - February 6th 2011, 05:55 PM

Thank you both. I don't know when I am gonna see her but it will be soon.
   
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Re: I'm not sure what to say to my friend. Her dad just died. - February 10th 2011, 07:24 PM

Sorry to hear about this terrible occurance, but there is one way you can help her. (Coming from personal experience) You can help her by making her feel better when she's low, help her to know that you will always be there for her if she needs you, and make her feel loved. Do not remind her of her dad, try to avoid the subject. People deal with death in different ways, and death affects a lot of people. So her family will be grieving too, and the least you could do when she is away from her family is to have a break and maybe start feeling abit better. It could take a long while for her to return-ish to normal, (if she ever does), but during that period of time, you could make sure her family and her knows that you will be there for them in their time of need. Imagine if that happened to you. Keep yourself strong and helpful, and most importantly, keep your head held high. You will be a very good friend to this girl if you try.
   
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