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2 Girls, 2 Much Drama! - February 10th 2011, 01:23 AM

Okay. I started a new school, and it's been going pretty good. I've made friends with most everyone, except the girls that somehow think I'm trying to take their boyfriend/girlfriend. But they don't bother me, and that's not what this topic is about. There are two girls [Ashley and April] that I'm having a lot of trouble with.

With April, everything I do will somehow get her into trouble, and everything she does will get her into trouble. Her little sister happens to be the tattle-type, and her mother gets angered very easily. There is this boy Austin, who me and April both find equally attractive. But whenever she talks to him, her little sister butts in and tells her to stay away from him and blah blah blah. Why would her little sister do this, you ask? Because she used to date Austin, and now her mother has forbidden April from talking to him because she thinks that April is only doing this to make her little sister mad. But that is definatley not why she talks to him.

And the reason she gets into trouble for what I do? Well, it involves Austin also. When I said her sister is a tattle type, she told on "Aprils Friend for trying to make her mad!" And April got into trouble because me and Austin switched jackets. While I do realize her little sister should be her drama and not mine, this is causing some troubles in our new friendship because she gets into trouble for me doing this. We're usually sitting down and talking about this during lunch, one on one. She doesn't want me to stop hanging out with Austin [I honestly wasn't planning on it ] just because her little sisters like this, and that she'd try and figure something out.

And Ashley. Our drama is completely different then this. One say she'll want to be my friend, and one day she won't. I don't even understand her mentality on this. She is completely ignoring me right now, and won't even try to talk this out. And "this" being that somehow I hate her. I don't hate her, and I'm not sure where she got the idea. Maybe because she thinks that when me and April are discussing our little issue, she think we're talking about her? And when this has happened other times [her randomly not being my friend] she'll just sigh and say something "I guess I'll be your friend again"

Now, I do realize Ashley is not the kind of girl I want to be friends with. I just really wish she'd be mature and talk to me about it.

Can someone please give me ideas/advice/etc. on how to handle these situations? Thanks =]

(And wow... So much drama for 3 weeks in a new school, eh? )



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Re: 2 Girls, 2 Much Drama! - February 10th 2011, 01:52 AM

Well let me break this down for each situation;

April - It sounds to me like little sister is spoiled and gets special treatment. The mommies little princess thing. Sometimes this happens sadly enough and one thing your friend needs to do is sit down and have a mature conversation with her mother, explain to her that no one is trying to make her sister mad or upset that you guys have feelings for people as well and would like to have the chance to express them without the difficulties of getting in trouble for it. If her mother won't listen to her then I think the best thing for her to do might be to bring it up with a school counselor, perhaps they could help her talk to her sister or they could talk to her mother and attempt to amend the situation. It really doesn't sound like her sister or mother are being fair at all.

Ashley - When I was in Junior high I had a friend like this. She felt like if her friends spoke to someone else they were talking behind her back and being mean to her so whenever I talked to someone other then her we "weren't" friends because I hated her. "Why else would I talk behind her back" She'd say. The only thing you can really do is assure her that you are doing the best that you can to be a good friend and that you don't hate her and if she cannot accept it then you're not sure what to do. Maybe even ask her if there is anything you can do to help her feel better about the situation.
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Re: 2 Girls, 2 Much Drama! - February 10th 2011, 01:59 AM

Thanks for the advice. They're just pretty difficult. I'll talk to Ashley about it as soon as she's willing to sit down and talk to me :/



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Re: 2 Girls, 2 Much Drama! - February 10th 2011, 02:18 AM

Yea, it's definitely difficult unfortunately. I hope you're able to work everything out! Good luck!
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Re: 2 Girls, 2 Much Drama! - February 12th 2011, 01:43 AM

Thanks. I hope I can work this out too



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