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Unhappy I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 13th 2011, 07:36 PM

This girl, Chelsea. We used to be super close, like the best of friends. Then one day, I called her while I was high. Texted her, but same difference. She called my mom and told her, and then she told me what she did. I told her to "Fuck off never talk to me again i fucking hate you you bitch! Fuck you!" And she didn't reply to that message. I got into so much trouble that day, becasue when my mother came home I had cleaned my face and accused Chelsea of being a liar. My mom took my phone and read all my messages, and most of them were between the girl I got high with calling my mother "stupid for believing me! hahahaha!"
I'm not proud of what i'm about to say either, but I was still really really mad at her after 2 or 3 months, and I complained to my brother. He helped me hack into her account, upload porn to it, and such other horrible things. We did this twice.
I lied to her about it too. She called me and asked "Was it you who hacked my facebook account?" and I replied with "You're facebook was hacked!?"
"Yup."
"I wouldn't know. I blocked you."
"Oh, okay then."
I hung up without even saying bye.
All of this happened in about... June, 2010. So I've been mad at her for months now.
I feel like a horrible person. Like, really horrible. I unblocked her on facebook just because I know her profile is open for anyone to see, and she seems like she is doing just fine without me. I want to say sorry.. But I won't see her until high school and I deleted her number. I don;t expect frogiveness [Honestly, I'm expecting her to tell me to fuck off. I deserve it] Should I add her as a friend again.. Or wait to do it in person... I;m so confused.

Please don;t lecture me about what I did to her. I already feel bad enough about it.



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Re: I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 13th 2011, 09:03 PM

Don't try to reconcile a lost friendship over facebook. Give her a call or text explaining how sorry you were.
I understand you feel horrible for hacking into her account and uploading a bunch of inappropriate things, but people make bad decisions all the time and regret them.
Start off with a text or call and apologizing. Ask her if she wants to become friends again (which then you can request to be her friend on fb again). Don't just automatically assume that you send her a request and she's going to accept it right away without a bit of explanation.











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Re: I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 13th 2011, 09:10 PM

I thought I mentioned I deleted her form my phone, but I guess I didn't. I don;t have her number anymore, or I would have done it. :/



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Re: I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 13th 2011, 09:14 PM

Yeah, yeah, you did mention. I just didn't put two and two together. Well, then start off by sending her a facebook message. Or unblock her, and see if her phone number is on her profile (it will be in her info section, if she uses the internet to access her phone, or has fb updates sent to her phone). That would be the best way to start before trying to send a request for friendship. Because, you never know, she might be mad at you.
I also forgot to mention that you had said that she seemed to be going on fine with you. Just because she hasn't been posting about it, or hasn't been upset about it on her fb, doesn't mean she isn't upset. I tend to stay away from writing sad status' because I don't want people to ask me questions, or assume the worst. She might also be doing the same thing to avoid confrontation with others (others might agree with what she did, and others might not)
She probably did what she did because she cared about you. Smoking pot, while it can't kill you, is still harmful to your health and is illegal. She probably rather your parents found out then you getting caught by police and being arrested and sent to jail for drug possession. Or being intoxicated. So, don't get mad at her too much, at least you know that she cared about you.











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Re: I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 13th 2011, 09:37 PM

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Yeah, yeah, you did mention. I just didn't put two and two together. Well, then start off by sending her a facebook message. Or unblock her, and see if her phone number is on her profile (it will be in her info section, if she uses the internet to access her phone, or has fb updates sent to her phone). That would be the best way to start before trying to send a request for friendship. Because, you never know, she might be mad at you.
I also forgot to mention that you had said that she seemed to be going on fine with you. Just because she hasn't been posting about it, or hasn't been upset about it on her fb, doesn't mean she isn't upset. I tend to stay away from writing sad status' because I don't want people to ask me questions, or assume the worst. She might also be doing the same thing to avoid confrontation with others (others might agree with what she did, and others might not)
She probably did what she did because she cared about you. Smoking pot, while it can't kill you, is still harmful to your health and is illegal. She probably rather your parents found out then you getting caught by police and being arrested and sent to jail for drug possession. Or being intoxicated. So, don't get mad at her too much, at least you know that she cared about you.
Yeah, I reaslize that now. But at the time, I was just exploding with anger at her. Now I understand what she did, but it took me like 5 months to realize she did it because she cares about me.

And it's true what you said about her seeming to be fine based of FB.. I mean, I;m one of those annoying people who's always complaining on it. So thats probably why I somewhat expected it.



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Re: I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 14th 2011, 01:05 AM

Believe me, I'm one of those people who are seemingly complaining about stuff to, even though I try not too. If there is something on there that someone doesn't understand, I just don't want questions but I suppose it's my own fault for complaining about shit.
Have you decided what your going to do?











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Re: I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 14th 2011, 05:36 AM

i would also agree that you should contact her as soon as you can about this. it will probably be a difficult thing for the two of you to work through, but i think you'll be able to work it out. i wouldnt ask for forgiveness over facebook though, i think you really need to talk to her in person (as in over the phone, not texting) about this. if her number is not on her facebook page, then message her asking for it, and simply tell her that you need it because you have really been needing to talk to her about something. i wouldn't type anything in the message, save the apologies for when you are speaking to her on the phone. also, you might try getting her number from one of her facebook friends, or from another friend that the two of you have in common.


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Re: I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 14th 2011, 10:46 AM

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i think you really need to talk to her in person (as in over the phone, not texting) about this.
Unfortunately, calling her isn't talking to her in person either. That's over the phone. Talking in person is face to face.











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Re: I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 14th 2011, 09:56 PM

Just try and send her a message and tell her how sorry you are. Honesty is the best policy. Just tell her about what you did and tell her how ashamed you are, just come clean and apologize the best you can and see what the outcome will be. She is still your mother and parents can be very forgiving, especially where their children are concerned.
   
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Re: I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 14th 2011, 10:05 PM

i suggest try to see her tell her how bad u feel and u want to be friends and how sorry u are over the phone or texing will be hard but its an option if u cant get her in person good luck




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Re: I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 15th 2011, 12:24 AM

Thanks everyone.
I messaged her on facebook and apologized. She replied saying she had missed me a lot, and asked if I wanted to be her friend still.
We have texted and caught up a lot since this original thread was posted.
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Re: I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 15th 2011, 12:44 AM

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Just try and send her a message and tell her how sorry you are. Honesty is the best policy. Just tell her about what you did and tell her how ashamed you are, just come clean and apologize the best you can and see what the outcome will be. She is still your mother and parents can be very forgiving, especially where their children are concerned.
She was talking about a friend, not her mother.

I'm so happy that you and your friend have made up. I hope things work out wonderfully to you.











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Re: I want to say I'm sorry to her. - February 15th 2011, 12:48 AM

I'm so glad to hear things worked out for you and your friend! <3





   
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