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Why is so hard to say I'm sorry? - April 3rd 2011, 10:17 PM

My parents piss me off so much. Well itís mostly my mom. See, with her, when ever someone does something wrong and makes a mistake, instead of telling them everyone makes mistakes like a normal mom would she has bitch about it right in front of that person, thinking that they canít hear her, when really they can. Then when sheís done doing what ever she needed to do, she goes to where every one else in the house is and bitch about that person to everyone else, again thinking that they canít hear her, but they can, or at least I can. And then when she realized that she made her own daughter cry instead of just apologizing like a normal person, instead of just admitting defeat for just once, she bribes her into liking her again. I still donít like her and you know, maybe I would if she had just given a simple apology. Thatís all Iíve ever wanted when she does this, not food or clothes or anything, but a fucking apology.


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Re: Why is so hard to say I'm sorry? - April 3rd 2011, 10:44 PM

I know how you feel. My mom is just like your mom. My mom bitches about how her life sucks and how we're do ungratful and she has no money and blah blah blah. In reality, she needs to get off her lazy ass and get a job. And we (me, my older brother and younger sister) are not ungrateful at all.

I don't know your mom, so I can't really tell you exactly what to do, but you could try and talk to her. Like, maybe the next time you guys get in a fight and she trys to buy you something to make you forgive her, come out and tell her "You know what, I don't want that. A new pair of jeans is not going to make me forgive you. Try a legitiment aplogy, and maybe I'll forgive you then."

Aha, I remember when i first realized that my mother isn't god. All these years thinking she had some kind of amazing power and was always right. At that moment, when you realize she's not, you're standing on a cliff alone. Now you need to get your own footing without her holding you up, because it turns out, she might just drop you. But then there's the strange satisfaction of knowing that if you manage not to fall, that you'll of done it on your own. ah the cheesy cliff of life.

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Re: Why is so hard to say I'm sorry? - April 4th 2011, 12:55 AM


I've decided to add a Strong Language prefix. Where the few swear words might not seem like much to us, some people have a harder time handling swear words.


Hey there, I am sorry about your mom. It sounds like the reason why she isn't apologizing is because she is afraid to admit that she is wrong. A lot of people are like that actually. People are afraid to apologize, because that means surrendering their pride. For some, they feel like they are less of a person when they apologize. And for your mom, she may be like that, or she might not even realize the errors of her ways. Your mom is a human too, so she is going to make mistakes. The best thing you can do is call her out on it. You could talk to her about this if you so desire. You can tell her that sometimes you would like an apology for the things that hurt your feelings. give her examples of the things that she does that hurts your feelings. I think that the best time to do this would be when she is in a calm state. Don't do it while she is stressed or upset, because she is less likely to see your point of it. She more likely to fly off the handle and get defensive with you, causing more conflict then there was before.



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Re: Why is so hard to say I'm sorry? - April 4th 2011, 03:51 AM

Be straightupp. tell her how it is and see how she responds.
   
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