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Unhappy I don't know how to deal with her anymore - May 7th 2011, 08:43 PM

My mother has been getting on my nerves lately like today she said screw you, and called me fat, a bitch and a skank. And now she won't stop accusing me that I'm going to have sex with my boyfriend because he is a "boy with uncontrollable hormones" (that's a big deal because I'm 12). I don't know how to deal with her any more! Any suggestions would be helpful


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Re: I don't know how to deal with her anymore - May 7th 2011, 08:57 PM

Kait,

I'm really sorry that your mom is treating you like this. In fact, it's verbal abuse and can be just as damaging as physical abuse. Have you ever had a talk with your mom about this? Have you ever told her that you don't like the way you're being treated. This might be a long shot, but I think you would benefit from talking to her. If she doesn't listen to you, it still might help to let out your emotions. When does she do these things to you? Is it when she is mad, or when she is stressed out? She is human, and though not fair, it might be how she deals with her emotions. If this is the case, you should talk to her. Kindly, and when she is in a good mood, tell her that you don't like being called all these names. Tell her what you want to see happen, and how much her words affect you. You might not be able to convince her of the boyfriend part, but it doesn't hurt to ask why she thinks these things, or why she calls you these names. You can also tell her that you're not having sex with this boy, and that it hurts that she thinks that. Though, I'm going to assume that you've already tried telling her that.


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Re: I don't know how to deal with her anymore - May 10th 2011, 06:01 PM

Hmm. If she uses verbal abuse or mainly insults you with words then .. Thats kind of against the law. You can talk to a school councelor or whatever right? You can tell the councelor to not tell your mom if you want it secret.

She or He can then not tell and help you secretly. However ive been through the same thing ... God it was bad.

My mom find out i was Bisexual and that i had a boyfriend so she started saying same stuff or rather stuff similar to what you experience.

Just.. Stay strong, Your boyfriend is not a guy with uncontrollable hormones. He just loves you. And i wouldnt recommend having sex at 12 .. maybe at 13 or 14 if you really want to.

But its your choice. Good luck
   
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