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Growing Apart - May 23rd 2011, 08:33 PM

I think, well I know, that I do way too much with my mum that I've got hardly any freedom, even in the house. I want to be able to sit on the computer in my room and talk to friends on some evenings, like I am today, without mum getting in a strop and being all annoyed at me like she will be soon. I also want to be able to do more things that I want and be able to live my own life, and maybe go to bed at a more reasonable time, not when she goes but a bit later as she goes at 10.00.

I managed to convince mum not to go to the football with me but she wasn't happy, only accepting because it's not really her thing. I'm no good with words and I don't want to hurt her so I was wandering if there was a way we could slowly grow apart a little bit but still maintain happy, well she remain happy, and I have a little more of my own life and more time for friends but on like 4 nights out of 7 still sit with her downstairs....??


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Re: Growing Apart - May 24th 2011, 03:12 AM

Melissa,

It sounds as though you have a pretty good idea of the things that you want from your mom. You seem like you know exactly what you need, and where a good middle is. I don't think there is a way of getting what you want without asking for it. I think a good way is to explain to her how you're feeling in a nice way. There is a way to have this conversation without hurting her. Just tell her that you feel as you're getting older, that you feel you should have a bit more freedom. Tell her exactly what you told us. Tell her that you're not trying to hurt her, you just feel that you need a bit more leeway. Show her what she gets out of it. Meaning, prove to her that you can handle more privileges. Tell her that if you get more freedom, you'll be more willing to do X, Y, Z for her. Take care<3


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