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Desperate car searcher - July 10th 2011, 08:27 PM

I don't care if this is in the wrong area. I just dont care anymore.
We're looking for cars to buy for me, we found one for $5,000 with 41,000 km its a pontiac wave. Everythings good on it, i just dont like how it looks. Its my first car, and I want to get soemthing i like. I told my parents i dont like how it looks and now there freaking out about how there are no cars available and that I start work on thursday. I DO NOT want this car, they are buying it and i am going to pay it off, apparently. I hate this car, i hate how it looks, but my parents LOVE it. They said, if you dont like it, we wont buy it. But apparently that was BS. Cuz i said i didnt want it, and now there freaking out about how im not being reasonable about buying a car. I dotn care if its awesome on gas, has great km, and a great price, thats all fine and woopdedoo, all i car about is if i like it or not. Is that WRONG? I can get a ride for work on thursday, but id rather have a car sooner than later, but NOT this one. All the cars i like my mom says are BS cars and ALWAYS finds a reason not to buy it. We looked at another car today, and it was PERFECT, except for some hail damage, and the owner said its been like that for a year and hasnt rusted. My mom told me that it would all rust over and the tires would fall off and it would be garbage in 2 months. BS. How do i deal with this? I want a car like a cavalier, or a sunfire, or a grand am, my brother has a car he likes, my boyfriend has an awesmoe car that he likes, my friend has a car that she likes, why am i the only one forced to get a car i hate? Sure, i can get to brandon and back 12 times, sure it wont need repairs for 5 years, sure it wont need tires for at least a year, that's all nice. If only it looked better. What can I do? I've looked on ebrandon and kijiji and my mom says they are all too expensive or they are all rust buckets. What do i do?


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Re: Desperate car searcher - July 10th 2011, 09:11 PM

Honestly, your parents are buying you a car. You really should be grateful for that, especially if its your first car.
My first car was a 97 ford escort wagon with a 155k miles. The air conditioner is broken, and the front tyrods are broken. I would kill to have your car. If they are willing to pay for it, id take it. Because cars don't just get handed out on a whim. Keep telling your parents that the car is not for you and you would like to keep looking. But if worse comes to worse and you have to get the car, make the best of it and be happy you have a car. Most teens don't get a car bought for them.


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Re: Desperate car searcher - July 10th 2011, 09:29 PM

I am paying them back for it, but i would like to make sure that it is a car I would be happy to drive for however long I can. Everythings fine with the car, I just don't like hatchbacks, and i thought my first car would be a 2003 sunfire 2 door or a 2002 honda civic something like that, the thought of a hatchback being my first car never crossed my mind... I suppose im just dissapointed.


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Re: Desperate car searcher - July 10th 2011, 09:37 PM

I guess that would be disappointing, sure. But at least you're getting a car. The car sounds great.. for a first car,your making out a lot better then most.


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Re: Desperate car searcher - July 10th 2011, 10:27 PM

True. And I suppose I could do a few things when I have enough money and get a few things for it so I feel better about what i'm spending my money on(seat covers, steering wheel cover, new radio, subs, ect.). My dad made the call, and we're picking it up tomorrow or Tuesday. Thanks.


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Re: Desperate car searcher - July 11th 2011, 07:23 AM

Some people luck out and get the "first car" of their dreams. Many don't. I think your parents are trying to focus on functionality and durability instead of appearances - and that's not necessarily a bad way to go about picking out a "first car". You need something to drive around in so you can get to your job. Once you save up enough money through that job, you can begin to look for a better-looking car... or possibly even make payments toward a new car.





   
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Re: Desperate car searcher - July 11th 2011, 06:21 PM

Thats good that you decided to get it, my first car / current car is a '98 Camaro, 175k miles, air works alright, the body is cracked and broke in some spots but the key here is that i save up my money and fix it, new paint job, new parts to fix the body, new engine when it goes out etc. the car itself was $1500 so its not a bad deal. Be happy though, some peoples parents wont buy them a car so they have to ride back and forth with their parents or someone else to work till they get the money to buy one, that would suck would it not?



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Re: Desperate car searcher - July 11th 2011, 08:43 PM

I still own my first car, and it's an 1985 Firebird Trans-AM.


The car was given to me by my mom, and it wasn't in good condition. To get the car in decent driving condition, I had to spend over 1,000 dollars on the engine. Before I received the car, it was sitting in the parking lot for a couple years and parts started rusting up. I love the look of my car, and it even sounds nice. I try to clean it every now and then, but now I'm actually putting it up for sale.

Why put such a good looking car on the market?

Well, it has horrible gas mileage, it's expensive to maintain, the suspension needs work, and etc. The worst part isn't the fact that it's taken a good amount of money to fix up the car; it's the fact that my car is only worth about 1,500 dollars and I am still having parts installed on it and such. By the time I'm able to sell it, I will essentially have spent more money on the car than its worth. Yeah, it's got looks...but so what? Like people, it's not always about looks. For 1,500 dollars...I am willing to take any kind of car as long as it's above 1990 because I want a car that HAS those qualities that your car has (gas mileage and all that stuff). 5,000 dollars is a lot of money for a car. When I received my car in its bad condition, it probably wasn't worth more than 1,000 dollars. I wanted the car so bad BECAUSE of its looks and look where that landed me; I don't have the money to keep maintaining the car, the car is slowly breaking down, and now I'm selling in the process of selling it! You want a car that lasts, not looks good. Since it's your first car, you can't set high expectations. I understand that you want the best, but you still got many years to save up money and buy something better. A car is just a car; it doesn't make you anymore attractive than you already are (which is what a lot of people think...especially men). If it can transport, it serves its purpose.
   
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Re: Desperate car searcher - July 12th 2011, 12:32 AM

My first car was a 2008 convertible Mitsubishi Eclipse Spyder. This, for those not car people:



How did I get this car at age 17 with a minimum wage job? Lots, and lots, and lots of searching, haggling, and a hell of a lot of work. (It's pathetic that people think I'm spoiled, because obviously having nice things doesn't mean you worked your ass off for it ) My parents went partly in on it since I'd spent so long searching for a car that I would enjoy, and they would feel safe with me driving in it. New, this car cost between 25K and 30K. I got it for quite a bit less than 20K Because of my father's and mine awesome haggling skills, plus it was very lightly used.

The trick with parents, ESPECIALLY if they're helping you buy a car, is agreeing and compromising. It's not that hard to search craigslist for cars nearby, and it's not that horrible of an idea to go look at it with your parents. Showing an active interest in something other than "looks" really goes a long way. I spend hours looking for a car with decent mileage, few miles already on it, with a reliable past from other drivers. But, being the 16/17 year old girl I was, I definitely wanted something HOT. And it is, no doubt. But it also still works awesome, despite being three years old and having over 20,000 miles on it. It doesn't hurt that my father is a huge car guy himself

I suggest actually just doing research. This is a HUGE commitment, and you need to get a car you both enjoy, and your parents enjoy. The thing is, if they are getting it for you, you're really lucky even if you're paying it back like I am. They want to find something safe for you, since you're a new driver they probably also want something cheap and easy to repair, no offense. Most of all though, you really need to realize that a lot of times pretty and good looking cars are in no way good for a young driver. They're expensive, have bad mileage, and are not safe at all! (really, you will soon realize how much gas you will use, and how much that shit costs. I pay $50 every time I fill up my tank, on a good day. One day I spend $80. On one tank. This is absolutely no joke.)

Look, if you want your parents to buy you a car, do research on your own if you really want one that looks good. It's not too hard, and if you really want to feel like an adult it's what you need to do.



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