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My dad refuses to admit it - July 26th 2011, 09:15 PM

So I guess I'll just start by saying this for the first time really, my dad is an alcoholic. Now this isn't clinically diagnosed, but just let me explain.( PS Sorry in aevance for the length)
So as a kid my dad was adopted by my grandparents. My grandpa was an alcoholic and was so bad that he'd go downstairs with a bottle of booze and not come back up unless he needed another one. He also had a terrible temper as well as a very argumentative spirit. My grandma, aunt, and dad therfore had to learn to deny my grandpal's secret from the rest of the world to seem like a normal family. When my grandpa finally sought therapy he was the only one treated due to the type of therapy used durring the time his family never really got the help they probably needed.
Now to the present, my dad definatley inherited the temper, denial, and love of alcohol from his parents. He drinks alot and as much as I'd like to say that it wasn't an addiction I think it really is. Now the problem is that he won't admit to this and he gets exctremly defensive about how he isn't drunk when he clearly is. My Mom somewhat agrees with me, but if we even aproach him about the ammount he has drank he gets furious.
I'm sorry about the length, I just don't know what I should do about his drinking and it's extremly hard for me to handle him while he's drinkng because he's insanely abnoxious. Thanks for the help
   
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Re: My dad refuses to admit it - July 27th 2011, 05:13 PM

Hey Abbie, I'm sorry to hear about what's going on in your family, I can't imagine what that must be like. Just because he's not ready to admit it, doesn't mean that there is nothing you can do. I would suggest trying alanon(for adults) or alateen(for teens) which is a support group for the family members of alcoholics, whether or not the person is getting help. I'm sure there's something similar if you're outside the U.S.



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Re: My dad refuses to admit it - July 27th 2011, 08:49 PM

Definitely look into Al-Anon and Alateen. You and your mom could also plan an intervention, but PLEASE consult with a professional (ex. family doctor or family therapist) first, and don't do it without other family members or friends present. There are both safe and dangerous ways to carry out an intervention, and you definitely do NOT want things to get out of hand if your dad has a temperamental disposition.





   
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