Friendship problem

[goonybug96]

Hi everyone, (This is going to be REALLY long...) I'm having a bit of a friendship problem. I'm not going to use her real name, so I'll make up a fake one... Suzan.

I met Suzan in elementary school, and we were instantly best friends. A couple years after we met she was diagnosed with diabetes; I know that it hit her really hard, especially because it was totally out of the blue. But after that she started acting differently, over the past few years since the diagnosis she has said some hurtful things about me.
I usually I would confronted her, it would get worse, but then I would forgive her so our friendship wouldn't end.

Last week a group of us went on a camping trip and Suzan was in a tent with another girl who is a lot like her (nice, but mean at the same time). When Suzan and her are together they seem to feed off of each other's actions and emotions. At one point they were making snide comments about another girl in the group, who has been my friend for a really long time (longer than Suzan).

Then, when we were on our way home, we wanted to stop for lunch, but I really don't like fast food, so I was requesting Subway. When we finally found one, most of the girls wanted to go across the street to McDonalds, so they went there while the rest of us ordered our sandwiches. I was later told that as they were exiting the Subway, Suzan said that it was annoying how everything was all about me. When I found out, I was really hurt, but I didn’t want to get in an argument in front of everyone else.

Stuff like this has been happening for years and honestly, I’m tired of being her friend. I feel like I’m the one putting in all the effort for our friendship and she doesn’t really care about me. I’m just here for her convenience.

Here’s the thing, I don’t know what to do. She is a VERY defensive person, and she hates being wrong, so if I confront her she’ll say that I’m the one who’s wrong. And I don’t want to end it badly, I still want to be friends and I still want to be able to talk to her, I just don’t want to be close friends anymore.

School starts on Wednesday, we don’t have any classes together, but I know that I’ll probably see her anyway.

I have no Idea what I should do! Please help!

[tasha555666]

Urgh tricky..As your growing up,you may tend to see yourself and her move into other groups of people..I know its happened to me.
Maybe drift off for a bit,let her realize that your missing and hardly around,if she feels that vibe and wants to talk then it shows she still want to work things out,but she might just be moving along friends now and it sadly does tend to happen..

Don't beat yourself up over this thou,make more friends start hanging with other people,my parents kept on telling me that as my friends would sometimes ditch me and be horrible,i did and it just flows that way.

[Levar5000]

Well, I'm sorry to hear about this...I know friendships are tough,I'm going though two hard ones right now...
The thing is, that stuff that you "heard" might just be rumors...I wouldn't believe it unless you heard it from your "friend's" mouth...
If it is true, I wouldn't be her friend anymore,I would stick with your other bud...
I hope it works out for you
~Sabreena

[goonybug96]

Thank you! Sometimes I just feel so lost because I can only see one way of doing things, when really there are so many other ways to take it. Thanks for taking the time to read it