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Counselor's reporting my dad :( - November 23rd 2011, 04:29 PM

I don't know what to do... my family and my counselor had a meeting yesterday and my dad openly admitted to touching me inappropriately when I was about 12... the whole thing was terrible, it was the worst hour of my life. Not only was I sick (I had missed school) but all my dad did was openly attack my best friend (my counselor) and my mom and I. The head doctor wanted my counselor to call the police immediately after he abruptly left about 30 minutes into the session, but my counselor wouldn't do it, but he did make her report him to the officials. Which means officials will be coming to both me and my sisters' schools and interviewing us on the condition of my dad, if they decide my house is unsafe, we might have to be moved out of our own home And I'm afraid that we'll be split up, and that I might not get a chance to see my finacee again until I can drive.

It's my own fault too... If I hadn't brought up the incident to my mom earlier this month she wouldn't have told my dad and he wouldn't have confronted my counselor about it. I don't see how I'll ever be able to live with myself because I split my family apart

I'm scared about what's going to happen once he finds out that my counselor called the officials, and what my mom is going to do to me once she gets home and finds out. I can't stand disappointing my mom I feel so selfish and stupid, in trying to find a better life for me and my family I ended up splitting us apart I don't know what to do with myself anymore...


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Re: Counselor's reporting my dad :( - November 23rd 2011, 04:44 PM

You didn't split the family apart, your father did. I wouldn't want to stay in a house where I was touched inappropriately. [Especially by my own dad. Don't blame yourself for someone else's actions. And if your mom gets mad at you, its because she, herself, is ashamed that her husband would do such a thing. Did she even know until recently?


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Re: Counselor's reporting my dad :( - November 23rd 2011, 05:03 PM

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You didn't split the family apart, your father did. I wouldn't want to stay in a house where I was touched inappropriately. [Especially by my own dad. Don't blame yourself for someone else's actions. And if your mom gets mad at you, its because she, herself, is ashamed that her husband would do such a thing. Did she even know until recently?
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Re: Counselor's reporting my dad :( - November 24th 2011, 05:27 PM

Your dad ruined the family. Your dad was the one who did this, not you. No child asked to be molested by their parents. Your dad is the one who screwed it all up, and he is the one in the wrong.

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Re: Counselor's reporting my dad :( - November 24th 2011, 07:11 PM

You did not split your family apart. You didn't ask for this. No one would. Your dad split the family up when he molested you. I highly doubt your mom is mad at you. If she's acting that way, it might just be out of shame that her husband would do something like that. But, you have no reason to feel guilty. You did absolutely nothing wrong.


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Re: Counselor's reporting my dad :( - November 26th 2011, 08:36 AM

This is your father's fault. All you did was openly voice what had happened before, and I'm glad you did to not let anything build up. I don't know what was going through your dad's mind back then, but what he did is totally unacceptable. Nothing that is going to or might happen is going to be your fault okay?


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