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Other (Answer Below) 1 2.50%
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Would this bother you? - November 27th 2011, 07:53 PM

Just out of curiosity, I'm wondering: would it bother you or make you feel uncomfortable if, at a sleepover, a friend of yours and their boyfriend/girlfriend were to share a bed? Nothing even remotely dirty happening, just innocently sleeping in the same general area.

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Re: Would this bother you? - November 27th 2011, 08:00 PM

If I knew nothing dirty was going on, it wouldn't bug me at all. If something was happening, that would be a whole different story.

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Re: Would this bother you? - November 27th 2011, 08:04 PM

Not at all.

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Re: Would this bother you? - November 28th 2011, 07:24 AM

Hate to say it, but honestly, It would probably drive me crazy. The only reason is I would be so jealous about it and I dont think i would even be able to sleep all night.

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Re: Would this bother you? - November 28th 2011, 11:16 AM

It wouldn't bother me at all, I'd expect them to but if something was happening beneath the sheets then I'd be bothered because that's the type of thing you save for when you're alone together, not while you're having a sleepover.
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Re: Would this bother you? - November 28th 2011, 11:35 AM

Nah I wouldn't mind. I don't think it's a big deal at all.

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Re: Would this bother you? - November 28th 2011, 11:36 AM

I would expect them to, so it wouldn't bother me.

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Re: Would this bother you? - November 28th 2011, 02:10 PM

No, like Nicole said, I would expect it. But if it did bother me I'd just have a quiet word with them.
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Re: Would this bother you? - November 28th 2011, 11:58 PM

I wouldn't mind at all. I'd do the same thing.

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Re: Would this bother you? - November 29th 2011, 12:10 AM

No, as others have written, I'd do the same; it seems natural to me, so long as it doesn't get outrageously out of control.

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Re: Would this bother you? - November 29th 2011, 12:12 AM

No, it'd only bother me if I knew something dirty was going on but if someone has respect for other people, they wouldn't do that.
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Re: Would this bother you? - November 29th 2011, 04:52 AM

Nope, wouldn't bother me. It's natural for a couple to want to sleep together so I don't really see the problem with that. I don't even know if I'd care if anything dirty was going on.

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Re: Would this bother you? - November 29th 2011, 07:49 PM

I wouldn't care even if something dirty was happening under the sheets because I've done the same in the past with my current girlfriend as well as previous ones. I would find it a bit odd if they didn't do anything dirty.

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Re: Would this bother you? - December 1st 2011, 07:57 AM

I would probably find it strange if us three are the only ones there, I would think mayb they want privacy. But no its their business, its not something I would do but I dont have a problem with them sharing a bed long as their not doing anything dirty if I'm around.
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Re: Would this bother you? - December 3rd 2011, 12:45 AM

If they were in another room with the door closed, then no, it wouldn't bother me. If we were all sleeping in the same room, though, then yeah, it would bother me, even if "nothing" was going on. There's a certain level of intimacy there, even when you're just sleeping together, that would make me feel like I was invading their privacy.

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Re: Would this bother you? - December 3rd 2011, 01:00 AM

If they weren't doing anything, than it wouldn't bother me at all. But if something like this has happened to you, and if IS bothering you, than I suggest talking to your friend about it just so she knows that your not comfortable with it.

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Re: Would this bother you? - December 10th 2011, 04:07 AM

Nah, I wouldn't care.
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Re: Would this bother you? - December 10th 2011, 04:44 AM

I wouldn't care it's happened to me before and it didn't bother me.

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Re: Would this bother you? - December 10th 2011, 07:01 AM

Nah. But I'd tease them the entire time.

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Re: Would this bother you? - December 10th 2011, 10:34 PM

Yeah, it would bother me because I'd be like the third wheel and I hate that feeling of being left out. I'm not saying I would want a threesome, but I would be the only one in a bed, without a partner to share it with and do things with.
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Re: Would this bother you? - December 10th 2011, 10:49 PM

It probably would bother me a little bit because I'd feel as if I was invading their privacy, and I'd feel uncomfortable being in the same room with someone else's boyfriend, even if I wasn't alone with him. Sometimes I find it awkward having another female in the room let alone someone with their boyfriend.

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Re: Would this bother you? - December 10th 2011, 11:01 PM

In that more or less unexplainable way it would bug me at least slightly yes.
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