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Unhappy I still can't believe my dad said this... - November 28th 2011, 04:56 PM

Ok well my parents are divorced. My mom finally got my dad to agree to something. He said he would meet me and my mom at a restaurant. My mom dropped me off, and I went out to eat with my father. It's been forever since I'd seen him, so I was being optimistic...at first. When we got there, we got seated and the waitress came over. My dad started building this rapport with the waitress. He started flirting up a storm. Then he said to the waitress, that he was my brother. I gave him a look. I didn't call him out on it, but once the waitress left, I remarked, So you're my brother now? He replied, Oh I just said it to say it. Wow, just wow dad. My mom somehow found out, she was furious. She called my dad, but my dad ended up half-heartly apologizing to me. But really? Why would he even say such a thing?
   
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Re: I still can't believe my dad said this... - November 28th 2011, 05:46 PM

I know divorces are hard, trust me I do. Sometimes dads say stuff to other younger women to get a bigger chance of hooking up. I'm not saying thats why you're Dad said it but, It might be. Maybe he was joking, he might have been uneasy and thought it up as a joke, not a good one, given. However I'm sure your dad didn't do it to hurt your or your mums feelings.
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Re: I still can't believe my dad said this... - November 29th 2011, 02:33 AM

It seems like he just wanted to get the waitresses number. Alot of the times if a older man has a daughter, alot of single, younger wemon try to stay away because they dont want to be in a situation where they have a boyfriend and a child to look after.

I think your dad was just being selfish and wanted to impress the waitress. Unfortunatly he got you upset - which I dont blame you.


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Re: I still can't believe my dad said this... - November 29th 2011, 07:57 PM

Since you didn't have to carry a long conversation with the waitress pretending to be his sister, there's hardly anything wrong with what your father did. He tried to get the waitress' number to move on in life or simply for a one-night fuck. I don't see why your mother was furious, besides you could've learned from him. When I was much younger, two of my cousins, 2 uncles and my father did very similar things, although in some cases I had to pretend rather than just sit there. Call it horrible but now that I'm older, I either play along with them or do very similar things. I cant do the exact same thing because I don't have a kid (thankfully), although if I did... *begins to imagine how he could pull it off in various situations*.


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Re: I still can't believe my dad said this... - November 30th 2011, 03:02 AM

More than likely he was joking in a flirtious way, people don't really act "normally" after a recent divorce, and are likely trying to somehow replace what they lost in their spouse. I don't see how this affects your mother though. Your parents decided they no longer wanted to be together, and so he was now single. He did something as a joke to try to impress a random waitress, and now she is feeling posesive/protective despite the fact that she no longer wanted him.

Basically this is what divorces are about, it sucks but it will get easier with time, and your parents will return to normal again, albeit without each other.

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