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My friend is frustrated with her mom - December 3rd 2011, 10:59 AM

Okay so my best friend is kinda fighting with her mum. They have been doing that a lot lately and the number 1 topic of her fights is novels. Her mum doesnt like to read novels at all and my friend cant live a day without reading them. So 2 months before the mid-term exams. 2 months d: Now my friend is a straight A student. ANd we don't have grades here in India. We kind of do now but more attention is paid to marks. And a 47/50 in maths is unacceptable for her mom. Well seeing the intelligent student that she is, it kinda makes sense but in every test, not really. So she was forbidden but she was still reading novels. And one morning her mom opened her bag and BAM! a 600 page novel. SO she was pretty mad and it took 2 days of lying and finally the truth to solve the matter. This was I guess in august. Then in around October they got into a fight over a gown. Her mom thought that something in it will make her older and she wanted it and all. Then 3 days ago, her mom opened her bag in the morning and there were 2 novels, one that she had to return to a friend and one that she was going to re-read cuz she had nothing else to read. And her mum knows she has read that one a million times. And she was mad that you'll read a novel in school and all. And also cuz in parent teacher meeting our history teacher mentioned that he had been reading novel while she had been teaching. And this teacher is totally crack pot. No one even pays attention to what she says in class. and she told her mum she had to return that one novel and that its not like there is even time to read in school these days cuz teachers take up all the free time and all but its not possible to explain to her what having a novel around always means to a novel reader. So she is frustrated with her mom right now. She herself says that yeah I know mom does this for my good and all and I love her but this thing is frustrating me. And her mom has always you know forbidden her from reading this and that. LIke she was forbidden from reading princess diaries once. And you know put a lot of restrictions like this on what she reads how much tv she sees and all. She has always been overprotective. But that has a reason. She is an only child and there were some problems during her pregnancy and she couldnt have a second child after that and all and some other stuff like that. SO now they are fighting and she feels that her mom is being unreasonable cuz she like won't even let her read a novel for half an hour at home. And she is adamant that I will read do what you want. Though she doesnt argue much on this with her mum. ANd doesnt say thgat I'll do it anyways on her face. But she has been crying over this in school too.
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Re: My friend is frustrated with her mom - December 4th 2011, 04:53 AM

Well first off I agree with you guys on this one - and usually I tend to go with parents. I think it is completely silly that her mother does not want her to read books or novels. If I had a kid, I would cry if I seen her or him reading novels. I'm not much of a reader and I stand up and give a huge clapping hand to people who like reading and bettering there lives, minds, knowledge, and language. As far as what she should do, unfortunately there isn't much she can to. I would still personally try reading books and trying to educate myself but I would find a happy medium. Don't do it during class when teachers are talking, and maybe limit the time you read every day. I think that if your friend finds a happy medium with her mom, that maybe things will work out better.

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Re: My friend is frustrated with her mom - December 4th 2011, 09:18 AM

But thats the thing, her mom is being totally irrational about it now. SHe has problem if she even touches a novel now. My friend said that fine give me half an hour to read at home and her mom is like no.
   
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Re: My friend is frustrated with her mom - December 4th 2011, 07:58 PM

Well maybe her mom needs a cooling off period - meanwhile dont read., Give a week, then have her sit down and talk to her mom. Make a promise or a guideline.

Like: Okay, my grades stay straight A, and I stay above ___ many marks, and then I am allowed to read 1 hour a day, Deal?

Something like that - but give her time to cool off first.


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Re: My friend is frustrated with her mom - December 5th 2011, 10:35 AM

That sounds reasonable. Thanks a lot
   
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Re: My friend is frustrated with her mom - December 6th 2011, 10:18 PM

No problem! If you have any other questions with this - feel free to Message me!


Best of luck to your friend and yourself! I wish I would like reading! :P

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Exclamation Re: My friend is frustrated with her mom - December 12th 2011, 09:29 PM

wow well I think you should talk to her mom alone
   
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