Friendship Advice

[anivad]

I don't really know how to work this website but I thought this would be a place for help? Idk so I decided to click on it and register so I could ask for help. Well I've come across many problems in my lifetime and I'm pretty young..I met my best friend just last year when I was a sophomore. She was the one that convinced me to tell CPS about my situation at home with my family now I live with my grandma. I was put in a mental hospital for about a week or so due to my parents...survived a car accident...had a very good friend of mine die and everything she got me through. But I fear I may be very very clingy to her I have called her excessively, texted her consecutively, and asked her like so many questions that well let's just say I know every detail about her life...and she's made promises that we will be best friends forever and go to college together and be old grannies together and such but I think that I realize I've been too clingy..what do I do? Because I don't want us to lose our friendship from me being overly different from other people...she's friends with me because I care about her so so so so much and love her dearly unlike other people and I would literally do anything for her..she hasn't complained except for a couple of times but those times..I didn't realize until now. I'm still clingy just I try not to show it anymore..I get jealous of her being with other people which is weird for me because I never used to be the jealous type..but I think that I need help..I don't know what to do because I never used to have to rely upon so much for everything before. What's wrong with me and what can I do to become better?

[Iris. ♥]

First of all, welcome to TH. You've definitely come to the right place for getting great advice. If you haven't already, I would advise you to post a thread in the Arrivals and Departures forum, so you can get a proper welcome. Now, on to your question . .

From what you've said, it sounds like you may have been a bit clingy. That doesn't mean it can't be solved though. Try to have a face-to-face conversation with your friend sometime soon. Talk to her about your concerns within the friendship. She might say you haven't been clingy at all -- there are some incredibly genuine people out there who never see others as wanting too much. But, if she does agree with you, simply apologize. Ask her to help you monitor that, and to let you know if you are clinging to her too much. I don't doubt that she was telling the truth when she said she wanted to be friends forever. So, I'm sure this isn't going to ruin everything.

Take care of yourself!

[It's Killing Me]

Welcome to TH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree with Sammi. You should talk to her. It seems like she is a really good friend and she meant what she said. So go and talk to her. Apologize. And tell her to warn you when you are getting too clingy.

Good Luck!!!!!!!!

[Chris.]

I agree that you need to talk to her about it.

On another note, I think you should start getting more socially active and start building other friendship up. If you have 3-4 best friends instead of 1 then chances are you wont be as clingy to them because you will be busy with others. So I think in this situation building up friendships and being more socially active is an important thing for you to do.


Best wishes,
Chris

[Theford]

If you do build more friend ships up then whatch what you do and say I'm down that path already and made way to many mistakes.