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Fighting with a close friend... - January 10th 2012, 01:39 AM

I originally put this in religion, but I got judged, questioned, and attacked a bit. So I'm coming here instead.

I have a close friend who is VERY devout Christian. All her free time is spent in church. She reads the bible constantly in her spare time and is trying to memorize it, and has succeeded so far. I love her to death, and I'm a Christian too, but I'm not as devout as she is. She keeps pushing things on me and I hate fighting with her.

My boyfriend and I are going to be moving in together in a few months. She's way against this, and tried to stop me, but she gave up...for a while. Now she's pushing on me not to have sex with him until we get married and not to sleep in the same bed when we move in together. I told her when we have sex is our decision, and it led to a big argument. I am a Christian, but I'm fine with sex before marriage. She started questioning whether or not I'm really a Christian, that I can say I am all I want but if I move in with him/start having sex with him I'm not a real believer. She's pushing it on me.

Is there any way I can stop her from doing this? I'm already super stressed right now and I don't need this from her. And please don't say stop being her friend, I've known her 7 years and we've been through a lot. She's very close to me, but her words hurt.


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Re: Fighting with a close friend... - January 10th 2012, 02:30 AM

Ew. Sometimes people can be rude in an annoying way, huh? (the ppl who attacked you, lol)

Well I would try telling her how you feel about it from your perspective. Telling
her how her words hurt should help her understand more.

... Sleep in a different bed? Sorry but that's kind of funny. It's kind of ridiculous.

Anyway, yeah try expressing how you feel, in a way that doesn't seem like you're
contradicting her and her opinions. I would want to keep her as a friend as well. (:
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Re: Fighting with a close friend... - January 10th 2012, 02:53 AM

I agree - you need to have a heart to heart and express everything you feel about this subject. Communication is number one and she seems to be blocking out your massages - so make she sure gets them loud and clear. If after that she doesn't want to listen and still continues to tell you what to do and criticize you then you need to do what you need to do to find peace. No one should push you to do or don't do anything you want to - so make sure she knows that.



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