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Exclamation we want to leave - January 22nd 2012, 11:09 PM

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okay so im JaJa im 14 my boyfriend is 15 we both get pissed at our parents and teachers and friends and its got to the point when we skip school and just hang we love eachother and are planning on getting married and we know that were very young but we are confident about us. our parents refuse to let us be together even though we love eachother alot so we decided we'd leave we want to pack and go since my dad throws me out all the time we decided on revenge so we are going to start new in america where we can have a life together. we'd like to know if were doing the right thing even though it will hurt people what should we do?
   
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Re: we want to leave - January 22nd 2012, 11:20 PM

If you're financially able to support you and your boyfriend on your own, then go out and experience the world. But if you cannot financially support yourself and/or your boyfriend, then staying in your current living situation is your best option. Being in love and being homeless may be cool for a couple seconds, but life will bite back at you. Stay where you are, focus on your future, and worry about moving out of your parent's house and living with your boyfriend later on. Right now isn't the time.
   
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Re: we want to leave - January 23rd 2012, 12:49 AM

I agree. Can you support yourselves? How will you earn money? How will you get an education? Remember - if you leave your education behind (especially not even passing High School), you will most likely not get a job - meaning no money.

What would I do? I would stay where I am. You will always be mad at your parents - and maybe even hate them. But you have a roof over your head, food, water, and the basics. On the street you have nothing.



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Re: we want to leave - January 23rd 2012, 01:04 AM

If you don't have at LEAST a high school diploma or GED in the United States... you're screwed. You WILL NOT get hired, unless it's to do something that an undocumented immigrant would normally be hired to do (ex. picking fruit).

I agree with Brandon and Chris. Even if you CAN support yourselves financially right now, how far will that really take you in the long run? Can you afford an apartment after combining your two salaries (assuming you even have jobs at 14/15 years old)?

Even if you can afford to put a roof over your heads, what about food? Transportation? Medical insurance? What about when you have a child together - do you realize how much a child costs to raise?

Finally, what about your overall quality of life? Sure, you'll have each other... but what about 10 years from now, when you're in the same lousy jobs with no chance of being promoted/getting a raise? Don't you think that will influence how you feel about each other? It will cause unnecessary stress. In the end, that stress could tear you two apart.

So while it's a sweet concept - running away from the "evil" parents and taking control of your lives - it's simply not practical. You're better off staying at home until you have a solid plan. Get your basic education, find a job, move out once you can afford to do so, and start your lives together as independent adults.






   
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