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My parents are being very disrespectful to me. Help? - February 13th 2012, 12:40 AM

I am 16 years old. I live with my 12 year old brother, 14 year old brother, and my 2 month old sister. My dad left when I was only 10, and he's not in my life much. When he was, though, he and my mom at least had the decentcy to not do what my mom and step dad do. :/


My mom and step dad have been married for around a year and a half. He's a nice guy, he really is. He makes my mom happy, and I'm glad about that. But there is one thing he and my mom, but mostly him, do that make me very uncomfortable.

I have days where he will just randomly talk about where and when and how him and my mom have had sex. Some days he talks more descriptive than most. It's an image in my head that I really could live without.

He'll talk about her boobs and what he does to them or how much he loves them right in front of god and everyone. Not only that, but he'll kiss her a whole bunch right in front of us and touch all over her and grab her butt.

I've told both of them how uncomfortable it makes me, because that's my mom right there. I don't want to know all of that! Duh, I don't mind them having sex but to make it well known to everyone? I don't like it.

So yeah, I've told them. And my step dad does it anyways. My mom never tells him to stop and it's getting to the point to where I have occasional nightmares and mental images that just make me want to puke.

Am I wrong for feeling this way? Should I just let it be? If not, how in god's name can I get them to stop being like this? Advice is very welcomed.


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Re: My parents are being very disrespectful to me. Help? - February 13th 2012, 01:12 AM

I would be pretty grossed out in that situation too. Have you talked to your mom about how you feel? She might be able to get him to at least calm it down a little.



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Re: My parents are being very disrespectful to me. Help? - February 13th 2012, 01:20 AM

I have talked to both of them. I've talked to both together and one on one. My step dad just won't stop. My mom says "I'm 36 and it's my husband, so it's allowed" :/


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Re: My parents are being very disrespectful to me. Help? - February 13th 2012, 01:36 AM

Ohhh boy. Sounds like your mom just wants to do her own thing, eh? Basically, she's acting like a kid. Well, if reasoning won't work, maybe you could get her to see things your way by talking about things that are likely to gross her out. Ask her how often your grandparents did it, and if they still do it. Talk about how gruesome your last period was. Yeah, it's immature - but if your mom comments on how disgusting the topic is, you could say, "Now you know how I feel when you and [husband] talk about sex in front of me! I don't care if you do it, but I don't want all the details. I'm your CHILD, not your GIRL FRIEND who wants to hear about what happened last night. Please, I want you to be yourself, but you're my mom, and I don't want those images in my head!"






   
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Re: My parents are being very disrespectful to me. Help? - February 13th 2012, 01:39 AM

You are not wrong for feeling this way, and I would feel pretty uncomfortable with this happening as well.

Since they didn't listen the last time you have told them, I think you should write (or type) a letter expressing all you feel and that you are starting to get affected in negative ways by seeing this and you cant deal with seeing this anymore. Make sure you express all your feelings, and you let all your thoughts out. Then, I would give it to your mom (or step dad).

If after this they still don't listen, then you will have to go through greater lengths to solve this problem; which I wont get into any ideas yet. Hopefully the letter will solve this problem before it affects your mental and emotional state even more than it already has.




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Re: My parents are being very disrespectful to me. Help? - February 13th 2012, 09:27 AM

God! Talk about being immature! No, you're not wrong. It seems really gross, if you ask me. Just talk to both of them again. Firmly. Hope this sorts out soon. Really soon, actually. -_-


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Re: My parents are being very disrespectful to me. Help? - February 13th 2012, 10:54 PM

My mom wouldn't care if I talked about my period. We're open about that much. And if I mention about my grandparents, she'll say "Well they do talk about it sometimes" and all of that stuff. I've tried saying "What if me and my boyfriend did all that in front of you" but all she's said was "Well it's different. I'm 36 and you're 16."


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