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how could she do this!? - February 19th 2012, 06:35 PM

i wrote my good friend and roommate a letter explaining how i missed our friendship because living together has somewhat made us grow apart...like we dont really hang out anymore. i was in my other roommates room yesterday (im not as close to her) and she is closer to my good friend and found the letter i had written in her room! how could my good friend let her read that!? i dont know what to do...i havent said anything because i dont want to stir up drama but this really hurts me because it was a very personal and serious letter.
   
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Re: how could she do this!? - February 19th 2012, 06:58 PM

Just because it was found in the other roommate's room doesn't mean your friend was showing it to laugh at. It could very well be your friend agreed with what you wrote and wanted the other roommate's opinion, which seems perfectly fair since she lives with both of you. Alternatively, it could even be as simple as the other roommate was snooping in your friend's room and found the letter then read it. You're jumping to conclusions by thinking your friend casually tossed it like trash to the other roommate so not only would you stir up drama, you could harm your friendship. Give it some time and if your friend doesn't reply, ask her to have coffee in a cafe or somewhere semi-private where you other roommate is not, then bring up the issue from the start in a non-accusatory manner.


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Re: how could she do this!? - February 19th 2012, 09:56 PM

I agree with the above post. See I think that you are trying so hard to become better friends with this girl hat even the slightest thing will set you off at this point. The letter may have been in her room, but it doesn't mean she read it, it doesn't mean they were making fun of you - all it means is that it changed locations from where you last left it.

I think that your friend honestly just wanted another opinion on what you wrote and what to do, and you need to accept that because its done and over with - you cant go back in the past and change it. If you are very upset and don't think you can move on from this event, then I would just ask your friend if the other girl read it. If she says she didn't, then let it go. If she said she did, then ask her why (but not in a rude way). See what she says and then go from there.


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Re: how could she do this!? - February 20th 2012, 06:37 PM

I personally don't really see much of a problem here. It clearly isn't your friend's fault that the other roommate had read the letter, and like the first poster said; it's highly unlikely they would have found it to be a laughing matter in the first place..

I think you're over-analyzing the situation, just a bit




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Re: how could she do this!? - February 20th 2012, 07:09 PM

I agree with what's been said. I don't think your friend would have intentionally let someone else read the letter, and even if she did it was most likely just to get an opinion on what was going on and not to try and hurt you or laugh at the situation. Why not ask her if you can get together and calmly discuss how you feel?



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