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Unhappy Coming to terms with my sexuality and telling my family - February 22nd 2012, 01:16 AM

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Ok so I have a problem and I'm hoping someone on here can help. So I have known that I like girls for as long as I can remember. I have told my dad and my dads brother Tim. They were both fine with my sexuality, but my mom never bothered to talk about it. I mean I can understand that it was probly hard for her to deal with that,but it doesnt mean that she should just kick me out of her life. Will my mom has moved out of state and left me, shortly before she moved my dad passed away. The only people I could stay with that lived close by were my aunt and uncle(not Tim). They are both homophobic(spelled wrong). I tried to tell my aunt(I feel closer to her then my uncle) and she refused to commite. Like my mother she blew it off. But then my uncle found out and he was ticked at me, not for not telling him but for being gay. He said that it is no way to live life and that I was horrible for wishing that appon myself. He said that my life wasnt worth living cause Im not living it right. He flat out threatend me. Previse to moving in with them I had onee girlfriend already. Now there is another girl I am crushing on,but Im not allowed to see anyone because of my living situation.The reason I dont feel comfertable around boys and would rather be with a girl is cause I was a repeat rape victom and I dont want to ever go through that again. I cant be with another man after that and no one seems to understand me. Dont get me wrong I am so happy that they took me in, but this is the way I am and theres no way for me to change that. How can I get it through to my uncle that I am a human too and that I deserve love too? How can I change my envinorment to be kind and friendly to all? Im scared and I need help, please.
   
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Re: Coming to terms with my sexuality and telling my family - February 22nd 2012, 02:57 AM

Explain it to him why, and how being gay doesn't change who you are. I think you might want to talk to your mom too, even if that is a horrible thing she did to move, but, she's your mom. I'm sorry for the problems, my mom doesn't agree with my sexuality either. PM me anytime, K?


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Re: Coming to terms with my sexuality and telling my family - February 24th 2012, 12:10 AM

I've tried to talk to my mom she ignors my calls and txts and no one knows were she lives...
   
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Re: Coming to terms with my sexuality and telling my family - February 25th 2012, 08:49 PM

This sounds like a tough situation - and frankly one no one should have to deal with. We often find that in this day in age people still discriminate against people who like others of the same sex, or those who would like to change sexes. Changing someones outlook on a situation is not a easy thing, depending on the person you are trying to change (like your uncle) chances are it will lead to alot of tears, broken heart(s) and eventually a break down (mentally).

People will try to change you, they will try to tell you that you are not living life, and that you shouldn't even be alive or that you make them sick - but one thing you need to understand that no matter if you are gay, straight, bi, trans, etc, there will ALWAYS be someone who will disagree with the way you do things, with the way you are, and with what you prefer. Its life - we all have different opinions, options, and outlooks on things: we all have different perspectives.

I don't think that you should waste your time changing the outlooks and perspectives of other people (like your uncle). Instead, I think you need to accept who you are, and embrace it. If you do this right - no matter what people say or do to you, you know that you are who you want and are destine to be. You have to love, create, and embrace yourself, before you can expect for anyone else to love, or embrace your way of life and who you are.



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