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Awkward silences :( - March 16th 2012, 12:37 AM

I think I watch too much TV, but I feel like, irl, when I run out of stuff to say with another person and there is just this silence, that it means that I'm bad at talking to people. I can carry on a conversation for a while, but when it happens, I just feel pretty bad. Is this all in my head?
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Re: Awkward silences :( - March 16th 2012, 01:01 AM

I don't think you should feel bad about this - there is no reason to. Sometimes we find those we can talk to all day, those people we just have alot in common with. You cant expect a conversation to carry on for an hour and not have atleast 2-3 awkward silence moments. It happens to everyone.

I think the other part of the problem is just that you are thinking way to much into it. You are trying to avoid these awkward silences so much that while you are thinking about it and trying to avoid it, you don't realize that you are creating more room for it. Let the conversation roll, and if you have to force the conversation along to not have the silences, then its not worth even carrying it along. You are just stressing yourself out and trying to avoid something that will happen eventually anyway. You shouldn't have to force it to avoid alittle silence. Who says silence is bad? Sometimes I would much rather have silence, then talk to someone who I can tell is just throwing out random and senseless questions and not really caring about the content of the conversation, but yet to avoid it being awkward. So don't think about it to much. Its normal, and its bound to happen within conversations.

Another tip: Try to find things in common to talk about. It will help the conversations out alot, and you find that you wont have to force it along, but yet it will guide itself.



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Re: Awkward silences :( - March 19th 2012, 10:51 PM

We all experience awkward silences; they are bound to happen. A conversation takes two people to make it work, so do not feel like it is your fault if a conversation comes to a halt. It most definitely does not mean you are bad at talking to people. Some people we just find more to say to than others. If an awkward silence comes about, sometimes just cracking a joke to make light of the situation can be okay. Relax and do not think too much about it.
   
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Re: Awkward silences :( - March 20th 2012, 12:05 AM

You shouldn't feel bad. All conversations have awkward silences atleast 3. Sometimes its good to have awkward silences because it lets you organize your thoughts.


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Re: Awkward silences :( - March 20th 2012, 05:25 AM

Taylor, you really shouldn't feel bad when things like that happen. I can say sometimes we really do run out of words to say to people. Even my best friends and I sometimes just sit in front of each other at lunch and don't say a thing. Doesn't mean that I'm bad or she's bad at keeping up conversation, but it's just it feels like we've told each other enough things going on in our life and that's it. And I think keeping up conversation is not only a one side job, any people involved in the conversation really should try to keep it running, unless one of them is really dominant in the conversation itself.

Maybe when you feel like running out of stuffs to say, you can convert to another topic, or trigger others to come up with another topic. Ask them like what are they up to and from there you can carry on giving your opinion, or maybe share some things that you know about it.

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Re: Awkward silences :( - March 20th 2012, 05:34 AM

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I think I watch too much TV, but I feel like, irl, when I run out of stuff to say with another person and there is just this silence, that it means that I'm bad at talking to people. I can carry on a conversation for a while, but when it happens, I just feel pretty bad. Is this all in my head?

I def. sympathies with you. I often feel insecure when I can't keep a convo with someone and there's nothing else to say. Its made me feel like i'm boring and made me wonder if people like me or not. The thing is though, we all are bound to come to times when that happens, where there is a awkward silence. But thats okay, thats normal. Don't blame yourself for it. Sooner or later one of you will think of something to say. Or even the next time you may have something brand new to say. Also when I come to awkward silences, I sometimes ask about the other person. Ask how they are, what they are doing that coming weekend, if they have plans for summer, ect.


   
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Re: Awkward silences :( - March 21st 2012, 02:21 AM

It happens, don't be sad about it
   
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